Is it normal for women to not appreciate chivalry?

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I'm a nice guy, and very romantic. I love to write poetry and all that, live kissing and cuddling more than sex, and try to be the "knight in shining armor". Anyway, my exgirlfriend hated it. She hated that I would open the door for her, write her poetry, pay for dinner. I even made homemade spaghetti with shrimp, and spent 2 hours setting up a romantic candlelit dinner, and she hated it. But it seems all women I've ever met hate me being chivilrious. Like If I open the door for some girl I don't know, they just give me a look like, oh, your some pervert trying to get me in bed. No? I'm just being nice! And all those jokes about uncaring sports obsessed, wife-ignoring husbands really piss me off. It's like, not all guys are like that you know? I'm not! And it seems no women appreciates me for being chivilrous. Why do girls watch all these romance movies, but then assume that any chivilrous guy is just trying to get them in bed? Why does no one appreciate this? Is it normal for girls not to? Am I normal for being a romantic?

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  • angelok11
    13 years ago

    WHAT IS WRONG WITH HER????????

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    some girls are just really independent, but some are just stubborn

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  • Starlly
    13 years ago

    I know this is gonna sound weird but try ignoring a girl as you open a door for her like fiddle with your watch while holding it with your foot and pretend she never even walked through and continue with your day and you could get a whole other reaction. Cook that dinner for yourself and say how this is your favorite and you've been wanting it all week. Women like chivalry but also independence. For guys that go out of there way to open the door for me I think it's nice but I could of done it myself. And for those who do it repeatedly I try my best to return the favor and beat them to the door and open it for them. This is one of the weird things women are split on even with themselves. Some adore it, hate, or are indifferent.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Marry me now!

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Yeah it's normal for them not to.. Many reasons for it, but don't worry man, I bet you'll find a lady that would love that kind of thing from a guy, because so many of us guys wouldn't do that.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Keep it up! There are also girls out there that appriciate this so much!

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  • Bman
    13 years ago

    I'm the same and opening up doors for people always gets me dirty looks.

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  • starkmanfan28
    13 years ago

    Ppl like that are the reason chivilry is dead. I wish I knew a guy like you!

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  • inlove89
    13 years ago

    I'm independant but love things like that. Idk what kinda girls you're meeting! But agree with above poster who said maybe it's too much? Idk..

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  • tori
    13 years ago

    I love it when a guy holds a door open for me. I say thank you even. Just don't be to overly friendly. That freaks me out.

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  • hotchickie81
    13 years ago

    I certainly appreciate chivalry :) Sure wish I could have been born in another century!!

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  • kneegnaw
    13 years ago

    You havent met your kind of women yet. Im sure lots of women would want a gentlman like you.

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  • unameko
    13 years ago

    my husband is chivalrous, and i appreciate everything he does. you just need to find the right woman!

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  • JIMMUH-uh
    13 years ago

    Yes..It's normal...The world is consumed by filth...Chilvary, honor, dignity..All of those wonderful concepts and ways of being are gone, dead to lust and deception.

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  • Mel
    13 years ago

    I appreciate when anyone guy or girl holds the door open for me. I always say thank you & smile! It sounds to me like you might be falling into the guy whos "too nice" category. A lot of girls, me included appreciate & love to be treated nicely...BUT if the guy is SOO nice that its sickening, its a turn off. Dont take it the wrong way either, Im old enough to be out of that bad boy, treat you like shit phase. BUT I still enjoy a little mystery, something to get on my nerves once in a while...it makes me realize I care enough about them to get a little peeved about some things. I hope you understand what Im trying to say? So... be nice & respectful but dont lay it on to thick. Girls will take full advantage of it & put you in the "friend zone" only. :)

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    • lalaforthehaha
      13 years ago

      I agree with her women can be very complex

      We like all those things that you send in general but sometimes we like a guy a little bit of a bad boy..if you look at those romance movies a lot of the time the guy at the start is bit of a bad boy or is a little ride to the leading lady and than becomes the sweet romantic guy..like pride and prejudice.

      Women enjoy a challenge it seems to me that you give it all away too early.. see it is more not what you do but when you do.

      or maybe you only hang out with cows, idk

      and the reason women can act mean to guys that they don't know in public who are only doing the nice thing..think about this before you there was many many guys who were sleazy and gross and she has her guard up from those experanices idk but as a women that is what i have dealt with in the past i'm sure it is similar for them so secretly inside they are thinking "Oh no is it happening again"

      just some thoughts take it or leave it

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    It's because women are never happy unless they've got something to complain about..
    And about them thinking your just a perv, well that's all the thing that women think all men are bad just because they had one bad relationship...
    I consider myself to be chivalrous too but I don't get any bad responses..
    And if I did, I'd simply look at them, and say: well, fuck you too then...

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