Is it normal for women not to like quiet guys?
I'm shy and don't get hit on much so.....
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Anime7
Well, you don't make yourself noticed. If you become more social then that will increase your chances of finding a girl.
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NeuroNeptunian
No, but I'm one of those women that is turned on by mystery.
If he doesn't talk to me after a few conversation attempts though, fuck it, I'm not going to try harder than I should have to.My husband is said to be the quiet type by his friends and family but I don't see it. He's social and very chatty with me but people act in different ways around different people.
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BluntsRolled
You can still be shy and talk to girls. They just don't want guys that don't talk at all. Shes not gonna do ALL the work, you gotta get out there.
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Saycheese
I find shy guys rather cute. I prefer them over the arrogant confident load mouths anyday.
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Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
it all depends on the girl i think.
quiet isn't bad really because ... just because a guy makes a lot of noise doesn't mean it's noise worth listening to.
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miss_torn2pieces
i agree with angel_in_a_glass_dress. It all depends on the girl, you know we have our own preferences...
It is normal but there are ways to make a girl you want likes you back. I'm a bit noisy woman and i told myself that i won't go for a silent type guy..NEVER.
And then this guy came.. he's quiet but i noticed him coz' he's smart in our class. I think he noticed me too coz' he won't ask me out if he don't. lol. We dated but it didn't turn out well for me but i kept that to myself. He's so quiet and only speaks if it is needed or if he asks me little about myself.
I was so frustrated coz' i had a crush on him and the date was not good for me. Maybe i was expecting him to do and say more. I do all the talking! He can't even handle simple conversation and i guess he noticed and tried hard but ended up telling more about himself and i got bored.
After that, i promised to myself that I'm not going out with him anymore. But during our class, though he didn't talk much he goes out of his way. Everyday he sits beside me, compliments me about my hair/dress a little and always noticing if i needed help. It became a routine for us and though those gestures are simple, it makes me smile and remember him. I give him a break to know him more despite the fact that it annoys me when he suddenly fell to silence and i'm happy that it did.
I don't know if what people say about "opposites attract" is true but i guess i have to believe it a little this time. =D By the way he's the only silent type guy that i had a crush on. Now, we are going out some time and i'm starting to feel comfortable whenever he's silent. I don't view it now as negative. We are getting to know each other more. He's starting to get used to my talking habit and he said one time that it makes him smile whenever he remembers me in his silent times.
We are working on our differences and i'm waiting for the time when he can finally ask me what i feel about him or what he feels about me. :P By the way, i found out that guys who are silent are more sweet and caring in their own way. =D I'm starting to appreciate silence because of him. So, don't think that girls can't like you back...Just be nice and try some courage to ask them out or get to know them.
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nobleserpent
Normal. Women like charisma, power, confidance. All the things you lack.
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ghostframe
Being quiet doesn't mean women don't find you attractive. The thing about quiet guys is that we come off sort of standoffish and women think we are emotionless or weird, which can also make you extremely mysterious to them. Most quiet guys are not antisocial as some women like to label quiet guys as. Quiet guys like meaningful and deep conversations not pointless gossip about something that has no premise. Being quiet also has its benefits, I find that women who approach me have a pretty open mind and don't judge based off what they don't understand rather than most who will immediately write you off without actually knowing you or your intentions. My number 1 tip for quiet guys is that you need to learn how to start a conversation and keep it flowing while being confident, don't put women a pedestal and start to over analyse whether she is in to you or how she thinks of you because you will start to create problems that were never there in the first place.
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Nokiot9
Lots of women like shy, quiet guys. Problem is, they're usually shy themselves and have trouble approaching someone. The loud, outgoing, confident guys DO get more girls because women respond to confidence and self assurance. Know u look good. And they will too.
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lizieralizard
women need to feel that they are picking a strong man that could defend and provide. being quiet shows none of that. dont take it to the other extreme and become a douche, just make sure u make your best qualities known.
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Noodleflower
I like shy guys .... And sometimes I do hit on them... It's funny I guess I go out of my league :( so I do belive a girl will hit on you or you just start talking to them as a friend than get comfy -your welcome ??? Hopefully all goes well
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tentacleTherapist
Eh...My opinion here?
So I have this guy friend. We're almost best friends or we are, something like that. He can be reaaaally quiet and shy. I used to like him but I thought to myself, "How the fuck would this work out?"
I mean, he's too quiet border-lining feminine....so for me, it depends on how quiet you are.
I like the more masculine ones (I'm not saying douchebag.)
But hey, everyone has their own tastes. A girl might hit on you, but if you look at your feet and don't respond they they could get the feeling you're not interested, or not even into girls.
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littlemissgiggles
The quiet, shy guys are the best :D I bet alot of girls would pick you over other arrogant and obnoxious dickheads anyday...
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[Old Memory]
Nothing wrong with you, just quiet people are hard to judge. Women are more cautious than men when it comes to just hitting on someone random. Well the smart ones are anyway.
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RinTin
It's hard for us quiet people, especially guys because some girls expect them to make the first move. Plus if you don't talk much they might think you're not interested therefore losing confidence in themselves to hit on you or ask you out. Just make sure you don't get a girl who uses you.
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DiamondEyes4121
For me, i don't like shy guys it makes it awkward try to make small talk and try to make eye contact look confident!
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Energy
Girls like confidence, but not cockyness! I used to be shy too. Didn't get noticed by girls. Ever since I became more social, out-going, and optimistic, I started getting noticed by girls, no joke!
It takes alot of practice, but if you want girls to notice you, try to be confident, remember, DO NOT be cocky, that's a turn off to alot of girls. Good luck!
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Oasis808