Is it normal for ugly men to hit on cute girls?

Hello, I want to aim this question mainly at girls, cause they will understand whereas some boys may get offended but I'm just setting the record straight. Girls, is it normal for me to get offended when avarage/ugly even fat men hit on me? I say it because I am not fat, avarage/ugly, not saying I am a model but I kind of know my standards. It just pisses me off when some guy who is nowhere near my league (sometimes even guys who are 15 years older!) hit on me! I wonder what makes them think they stand a chance. And I know is not all about looks, myself, the quality I like the most in guys is Intellectualism and Style, but seriously, the guys I'm naming don't even posses those qualities! I am quite sweet, friendly and welcoming to everyone, maybe this could be the reason why, not sure. But I don't want to start becoming cold to them now, I just would like them to know better.

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  • EdWall234

    This is completely normal. A guy builds up the confidence to approach a girl and she may turn him down, giving that guy the experience of failure.

    Men hit on women 'out of their league' because it's better to take a leap than go home with the torture of not knowing.

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  • Yeah, probably the same reason for you why it's mainly ugly males only hit on you, because they might actually be aiming at their "league", but you just believe your "league" is higher when it probably isn't, which is why the majority are ugly males. Just by your attitude alone I wouldn't even give you a five second glare, let alone a chance.

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    • Haybales

      You're completely going by assumption, which is also completely missing her point.
      Let's assume she is correct in being out of their league, which is the only reason why she even wants to know, don't let your own self esteem issues get in the way of this girl finding an answer to something which has obviously happened so much to her shes fed up

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    • dalmationUntoyourSoul

      dude that felt like a slap. well executed.

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    • qazzaq

      Wrong! I didn't say mainly ugly guys hit on me! If you see some of my guys you'd probably become gay! haha :) Best regards

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      • I doubt it. Post a picture and prove me wrong.

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        • qazzaq

          Do you think I can be bothered to upload a picture to some stranger just to prove him wrong? Seriously, what has the internet come to! xD

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          • I didn't expect you to post a picture, I was just looking to see what your reaction would be to being asked to show what you look like, and as I expected, you're trying to avoid showing.

            I am 80% sure that you're not as attractive as you think you are, just easy to get, and for some reason you think that instead of being easy to get, it's your looks making guys talk to you.

            The internet has come to people thinking they're high in attractiveness, when they aren't.

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            • qazzaq

              And do you think I didnt know that you only wanted to see some sort of reaction? I now have the impression you think you are much more smart than you actually are. I am not avoiding anything, I am just being frank. You don't know me and you are telling me I'm easy to get, wow! . People like you are what makes society wrong.. With these lazy tipical assumptions.. You should have known by now that Assumption is the mother of all screw ups. Nevertheless you still leave the 20% there, which at least gives me some hope that at least there's 20% of you that still could make more sense. And no, I grew up with the generation who wasnt born with the Internet, I have real life experience, whereas I think you must be pulling your girls over facebook or such, for you to come to think that someone could decide of their attractiveness over the internet!

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  • blaster

    I know where your coming from even as male. I get older women "all the time" staring at me or attempting to flirt with me. I often think just wtf , what they think I'd return it and chose them over their gorgeous daughter or the hottie 1/2 their age often less , standing beside them or even sitting with me.
    The mind just f'n boggles , I find it pretty insulting to be honest.

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    • dalmationUntoyourSoul

      older ladies, that's whats up.

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    • qazzaq

      Agree with you 100%

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  • Delusion Is the word your looking for. I think space ghost is right about the self-esteem thing but I think some guys are already so full of it that they are deluded to think they can get any girl. These men don't usually respect females and see them as cattle. They think they have to charm and intellect to enchant said prey.

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  • Anime7

    Some men don't believe in leagues, myself included. Why limit how many women a man can get by putting a barrier around them? I can understand where you are coming from, but like Space Ghost said, it helps satisfy the lust to a degree.

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    • NeuroNeptunian

      Yeah, for real, the whole "leagues" thing is so fucked up and mainly based on flawed perception.

      My husband is considered by all to be a nerd (he likes anime, comic books, writing stories and Star Wars, a Math and computer geek... the whole 9 yards of nerd and then some...) but when I met him, my perception was "OMG he's so cute and funny and unique and he's talking to me!". I'd just gotten out of high school and I was a huge mega nerd in high school too, so I saw it as a little funny that NOW all the cute boys were talking to me XD

      Little did I know this... but he told me that he felt the exact same way about me XD It's all bullshit, how you perceive yourself and how others perceive you can be two totally different perceptions sometimes =/

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      • dalmationUntoyourSoul

        i liked your story.

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      • Anime7

        I completely agree. Have you ever seen the movie "She's out of my League?" It really teaches you that leagues don't exist and it's all about having fun with the person. I have to say your husband does sound pretty awesome. Nerds are usually cool, although I'm bias since I am one. Anyways, you sound like a lucky girl.

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  • Bobtailcatgirl

    There used to rejection

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  • Tempest-au

    Okay, I'm a guy, but I'll weigh in regardless (because I do that).

    Personally, I used to be "really good looking" when I was younger, now I'm a 48 year old fat guy who's hair is falling out. In short, I'm now one of those "Ugly Guys". I own it - because lets face it, I can't bloody change how I look! (yes I know, I could lose weight, but seriously it isn't going to make that much difference)

    I flirt with anyone. Put me in a social environment with a few drinks, and I'll chat up a table lamp. I don't care if you are 25, 55, related, lesbian, a drop dead gorgeous model, or someone who is "Particularly plain" - I have a flirtatious nature and I don't usually try and hide it.

    That said, most of the time if my easy going flirtatious nature is misinterpreted as "hitting on" someone (and they either get offended or want to take things a little further), I'm quick to set the record straight - I'm also damn near a cripple, and to be frank a couple of hours of vigorous sex would probably put me in hospital begging for morphine.

    Oddly enough, it's usually the younger and more attractive women who misinterpret my personality as "the creepy old guy is hitting on me", probably because more guys actually DO hit on those women.

    In short, what I'm saying is that I believe a lot of the time these "old ugly guys" that you believe are "hitting on you" are just in fact being sociable, and because you believe yourself to be attractive you THINK they are after sex. If it bothers you, try a polite "Hey, you're a nice guy, and just so there are no misunderstandings, I'm not interested in you as anything other than a friend".

    In any case, writing someone off because of their age or appearance is actually pretty shallow.

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  • Saycheese

    I agree on you partially.

    But I don't think there should be such a thing as leagues but I admit I do feel rather weird if the guy that starts talking to me or hitting on me isn't attractive to me at all. But at the same time there are a lot of guys I've seen that I think are rather cute but they need the good personality to be cute.

    I personally don't have too much in the way of personally preferences on looks. But it's only human to take risk.

    I've also been attracted to guy older than me, and I can't say that I'll never marry a guy that is 10 years older than me. Just never know... But I'm saying that because I've never had a boyfriend and only have gone on dates so much times.

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  • dalmationUntoyourSoul

    get off yur ass and hit on dudes. its hard. especially if you want a for real girl and not just a fuck.

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  • dalmationUntoyourSoul

    you aren't all that. some people hit on every girl they see because it's a game of chance, and the more you do it the more likely that you will succeed. also, it could have something to do with how girls will give their number to anybody hoping to get a free meal or something out of it.

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  • Nahtangnouv

    Not to be mean but... bitch

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  • TheMysticalTurkey

    If i was you i would see them as a higher class of man
    Its really hard for even some fit men to ask girls out it takes alot of confidence for seemingly ugly fat men to ask people out
    But if i was in your position i would probebly turn them down also, just not as shallow as you made it seam

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  • BASEDOFWG

    Usually I never disrespect women but you're a bitch. Sorry just calling it like I see it.

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  • Dr.Awesome

    You won't be pretty for very long. I'm, going to carve your face off with a dull deer antler.

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    • dalmationUntoyourSoul

      you really are awesome. and a surgeon too. i'd scoop you right up and make a married dr. awesome outta you.

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    • qazzaq

      Go on then! I'm so scared! xDDDDD

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      • dalmationUntoyourSoul

        SMEGMA. PEENESS. No.

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  • NeuroNeptunian

    Well, here is the way I see it.

    I am married to a man that is 7 years older than me. He is still very youthful looking and attractive and still has a youthful outlook on life and a youthful attitude. Therefore, those 7 years really don't bother me that much, and they didn't when he was hitting on me. It's really not all about age, if you're attracted to someone, you're attracted to them, if not, you're not. Age correlates, but it's ultimately about whether or not you find someone attractive.

    My final word on the subject: Doesn't creep me out or bother me unless they are very persistent even though I've already stated that I am married or with someone or would prefer someone younger etc. (I find it disrespectful), I can still say no. Although I'll be completely honest, I do find it more flattering when it comes from men that I believe are attractive. I gotta give them props for knowing that you gotta play a game to win it ;)

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    • dalmationUntoyourSoul

      fuck yeah. gotta play it. it seems like for most girls, whether the guy is creepy more depends on his success in the game. if she likes him he isn't creepy. if she thinks he is ugly then he is labeled as creepy. you really never know what someone will like until you ask them, and it's also kind of fun offending girls that think too much of themselves in the process.

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      • NeuroNeptunian

        " it's also kind of fun offending girls that think too much of themselves in the process."

        I like the way you think.

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    • It is true that you gotta play the game at least to have any chance of winning it, but....

      Why does it have to be a game at all, cant it just be a polite exchange, or anything simpler??

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      • NeuroNeptunian

        Well that doesn't sound like a winner's attitude to me, DJ.

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        • Well to be called a winner, a real winner I mean, you have to get out on the field and get up to bat. I am not even on the bench, in fact I didnt even make the damn team!

          Haha, well maybe I did. I dont even know anymore.

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          • dalmationUntoyourSoul

            i don't know i was too busy masturbating.

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  • I have to kind of agree with ItDuz somewhat, I mean at least the way you worded this reads as if you greatly exaggerate how you look. You also kind of contradict yourself by saying its not all about looks at all, right after ranting about guys who arent in your "league" talking to you.

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  • GoraIntoDesiGals

    If they're rich

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  • PalestinianGuy

    First of all I'm a straight guy (who is very good looking btw :D) and let me tell you this, guys are not supposed to be beautiful\handsome from an evolutionary stand point, as long as they can provide protection to the girl by being strong\rich\and having high status that's all it takes, but girls on the other hand should be beautiful (wide hips, nice breasts, and pretty face)

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    • lecitone

      absolutely wrong , I don't know how you see things maybe in your culture this is right ,but in all over the world good looking guys have more chances to hang out with beautiful girls prove me wrong , if you want a hot chick you must be a good looking guy!
      What I'm trying to say is girls are attracted to handsome guys like men to beautiful women it's the same thing

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