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My husband and I tried anal sex the other night,it hurt like hell. How do we make anal sex feel good?? I was in tears the other night because it hurt too bad. my husband is thick so I know that might be an issue for us. I would like to explore it atleast one more time. Hes my husband and I want to make him happy.
Agree with Jennifer21 lots of lube and start off with a finger or butt plug. Once you have used these a few times it becomes easier as time goes on to start introducing larger diameter items and then his thick cock. Dont give up on it as anal sex is amazing, you'll love it and get some great feelings especially when he dumps his load deep inside you.
We would be using condoms and lube during anal sex. So he wouldn't be Cumming in my ass. We were drunk so I thought it'd be a good idea. But it hurt too damn much. What is the best lube to use?
I would advise maybe not using condoms or at least give it a try. The extra latex wrap can kinda fold up with tight anal (or vaginal for that matter) and cause extra friction and possible pain.
I have used probably half a dozen different lubes but I don't think it matters that much. What's causing you pain is that your sphincter isn't used to being stretched.
So heres my suggestion that worked for me as a guy to make strap on sex not hurt and also has helped one girl I was with have less pain with anal. The secret is butt plugs. Buy some, preferably a pack of 3 different sizes and just wear one regularly until you feel moderate discomfort and then pop it out. Repeat regularly and gradually move up to more size and more time wearing one over time. You will plateau at some point because your anus can only stretch so much, but by the time you get to that point anal will most definently be less painful. Also wear one during foreplay to both get you hornier and also to prestretch you a little. I can even advise you good plugs to buy.
I will wear condoms every time I have anal sex that's not going to change.
That way we can still have vaginal sex. And I don't plan on buying butt plugs either. I feel like I just need to be more relaxed and do more foreplay. We're married now and I told him after we got married we could do anal sex.
Lots of lube, start with a finger or a small dildo/butt plug, and go slow!
Astroglide is a popular lube. But anything that is water soluble will work best. Work up to his cock by using fingers, toys, butt plugs, etc. Rimming can also be a great turn on for both of you.
So lube your anus and his cock, take it slow and you both will get great enjoyment from it.