Is it normal for teens to be "know-it-alls"

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I have a teenage daughter and she keeps talking back to me, she thinks she can do what she likes, she thinks she is invincible!! She argues all the time about everything and I just want to give her advice but she says she knows it all. I cant seem to be able to communicate with her anymore and my husband doesnt know what to do either. I was brought up in a very different situation, if I spoke back to my parents, I would get a smack and told to show respect. I really understand now why my parents did this because I have noticed, even with her friends that they show no respect to adults at all anymore. I dont know what to do anymore and I think its too late to start "disciplining" her the same way I did and parents can get arrested now for smacking their kids. And I dont mean beating them up, just a smack on the bum. I dont know what other options I have.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Smack her really hard & scare her or she will become a std infected crack whore prostitute

    Kick her out the house or she will stay around & bully you around

    She will become a pregnant teen who leaves school to take food stamps & become a single mom while you take her of her kids while she's at a club giving blow jobs

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    • Somone
      13 years ago

      you are an idiot.. you shouldnt come to this site to make fun of people who are actually talking about serious stuffs, and stuffs they care about!
      you are extremely disrespectfull towards others..

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    • Somone
      13 years ago

      it's not too late to disciplinate (not until she's an adult)! the problems whith parents today is that they dont' put their feets down, they don't disciplinate enough, and they always end up leting the kids win..
      I'm a teenager, and I just hate the way the younger generations behave, I can't even stand my little sisters behavior at times, and I have to say, in comparision she's more polite than lots of teenagers..

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  • wayfarer
    13 years ago

    Is it normal for parents to be "whiney asshats"

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    I'm thirteen, and I think that teenagers can be REALLY stupid. All most of us care about is being cool and popular, having the cutest clothes, and feeling mature. I think the reason she's doing this to you is partially because of hormones, and because she's sees her other friends doing it. Like I said, I used to be a total problem child but now idk I just act better to my parents and it just feels nice to be respected and trusted.
    What you could do with your daughter is sit down and tell her she can have three minutes to tell you everything that's bothering her. No interruptions. After the three minutes are up, have a convo about what you both can do.
    As far as discipline, you have to be firm. The job of a parent is to not be the childs friend, but to prepare them for the real world. So, if she has a cell phone, don't be afraid to take it away if she is acting up. You could take away her iPod if she has one, or ground her from going out. You need to be firm so she respects your role as a mother.
    I really hoped this helped!!! And believe me, you are not alone.

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  • fagboy10
    12 years ago

    Give her to me for a week I bet when she comes back she will be a better person to you and everyone around her

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  • CaptainObvious
    13 years ago

    The ironry in this is story is palpable.

    ~Captain Obvious.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    I'm a teenager and first of all this is completley normal
    Perhaps you've heard the term "teen angst"
    Try not yelling and more of an understanding approach..I have a phenomenal relationship with my parents because of this :]
    good luck !

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    it's how we test our parents. to see their limits. you clearly have been a disappointment. subconsciously we want all our parents to really enforce their rules, because it shows us that they are serious and really love us. the parents that don't, and let everything slide, they don't love.

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  • BoredGuy
    13 years ago

    smack

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  • BoredGuy
    13 years ago

    too late, you should have snack her ages ago

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  • Uzzie101
    13 years ago

    No this isin't normal at all
    *sarcasam*

    She's a teenager, get over it!

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  • wayfarer
    13 years ago

    "Bonesaw is ready!"
    no srsly

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    13 years ago

    well thats the thing, i have tried being polite to her and she just gets nasty with me so i have given up. i dont talk to her anymore.

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  • anonymousss
    13 years ago

    Maybe there's something in your tone when you try to reason with her?i get irritated too when my mom orders me to do stuff. Like, just cause you're parents doesn't mean you shouldn't be polite to your children. Respect goes both ways.

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    • Somone
      13 years ago

      I couldn't agree whith you more! respect SHOULD co bothways, of course that parents have more autority and DO have the rigth to order you to do SOME stuffs, but that order should be in the form of a favor-asking..
      I argue about this whith my parents (specially my father) when they tell me I should respect them, and then I point out that some of the things they consider disrespectfull they do to us, but aparently is disrespectfull for us to do it to them but NOT the other way around

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  • hotmama50
    13 years ago

    pop her in the mouth and tell her to grow up or shut up. i have two teenage girls and i'm about to lose my mind!

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  • combatgal856
    13 years ago

    I'm 18 and some teens act dumb. What I realise is that teens and adults see the world completly differently. I would say for a teen its like you are just entering the world and you are finding yourself whereas an adult is just living life day by day, paying bills etc etc. It is difficult for adults to understand teens and vice versa, but once you reach a level of maturity, adults start making sense. we live in a different society where we have more freedom, I think your daughter needs to feel trusted but guided at the same time. I don't have kids so I can imagin this being a hard thing to do. Remeber your the adult, so be harsh when you need to be harsh, but don't push her away.

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  • Echoes
    13 years ago

    Try befriending her. I don't have kids so I'm not sure if that will work.

    There are many teens on this site, I hope they can tell you how they like to be treated or dealt with by the parents.

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  • kellstar
    13 years ago

    Im a female and I was like this with my mum when I was a teen(I regret this now but it's a bit too late) the more my mum tried to help me or control my bad behaviour the worse I behaved. My mum is now one of my bestfriends(I'm 31). At the time I needed discipline, maybe even wanted some but the more she tried the more stubborn I became. I now have a 12year old daughter myself who will soon be a teen but she isn't at that stage yet so I don't really have any advice except for u to make sure your daughter knows u and her dad love her and want her to be safe. I was never smacked as a child either and I don't smack mine ( i take away privileges such as tv, computer and friends) but I think if I had been I may not have been such a brat!
    Goodluck and I hope u get some better advice

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