Is it normal for someone to tell you that everything you do is wrong?

My mom says everything I do is wrong. Even the way I shake a yogourt bottle is wrong. And everything she does is right; even the way she holds the fork is in some way superior to everything else. I was raised to be a cripple, really, because my mom refused to let me do anything because of course everything I did was wrong. The first time you do something, you are bound to mistakes, but no, to her you must get it right the first time, even though, she herself, could not accomplish that feat.

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  • Cellbiologyphiliac

    Unfortunately, this is more normal than what most people believe since I also went thought a similar situation with relation. But I would suggest that either you move away from her (if you're old enough) or just try to stay away from her and surround yourself as much as you can with positive peer such as friends or other relation who aren't so hard on you, because what she is doing will really rape your self esteem--trust me I know.

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  • Anime7

    It's normal if you're a complete a-hole. Seriously your mom sounds very judgmental and toxic to your self esteem. Honestly distance yourself from her and tell her how bad her behavior is if you think it'll help her change. But for the most part, try not to let her critiques bother you.

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  • Melora

    She wants you to have low self esteem so that you will be easier to control.
    Learn to set boundaries and stand up to people who treat you like dirt or you will be groomed for having abusive relationships in the future. You deserve to be treated like a person of equal worth.

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  • beachgirl1210

    Based on what your saying, it sounds pretty un-normal. But, you don't really have any other examples except the yogurt bottle thing for me to really see if its normal or not. Someone could say 'you open the yogurt bottle wrong!' and be totally joking about it.....need more context

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  • omphemetse

    Don't be discouraged about your moms thoughts, be strong n try to explain to her on the other hand prying for her

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  • Teh4HorsMen

    Normal if your moms a bitch.

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  • Flowersunshinemoonprincess

    It's not normal of her, sounds abusive. I suggest you take some space for yourself. She probably needs therapy. And you are much more together to not be abusive like her

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  • Not normal! Either your mom is highly arrogant or OCD. I am sorry, she sounds very frustrating. At least you know how NOT to raise your kids.

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  • Riddler

    Well my parents were like this before the last divorce anyways. Most of my friends were like this till I made friends in 10th grade. I also had one friend like this. They are also what I like to call a "1-upper".

    They even used a word incorrectly one time and I told them "I don't think that is what it means". I even double checked in the dictionary and they still told me I was stupid and said "How can you not know this. You're are such an idiot".

    Only to come back the next day and tell me "My teacher said that is not what it really means. I guess I was wrong". They also got angry when I made mistakes but when they made the same mistakes it never seemed to apply to them.

    They thought they were perfect in every way and a complete racist. They would always pick on me for not being from japan. Since only people from Japan are cool. I really started to resent people from japan for this reason. Though spending time away from this person made me realized its not japans fault the people I know are dicks. Now I don't really resent them anymore.

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  • youareaghost

    you have to take control of yourself.

    you were not "raised to be a cripple". throw that garbage thought out of your head.

    your life will go on long after you move out of your mothers house, and it's time that you take responsibility for yourself.

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  • LC50

    what your mother is doing is wrong and she needs to get some kind of help, sounds like shes taking her on low self esteem out on you. talk to her tell her what she is doing is hurtful, if she dos'nt listen go to someone you trust and let them know whats going on, I really hope this will workout for you.
    IT's OKEY IF YOU MAKE MISTAKES THAT IS PART OF GROWING UP, IT DOS'NT MAKE YOU A BAD PERSON IT MAKES YOU HUMAN.

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