Is it normal for someone to have ex's on their facebook?

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My boyfriend had his ex girlfriend as a "friend" on Facebook. Once I found out she was on there I confronted him & he said that she was the one who requested him and he didn't care about her anymore, but yet she was a "friend" on FB. I feel that any social networking site is to keep updates on specific people, see pictures, basically you stay in touch with them from afar. I get super pissed thinking about what they may have talked about since we have been together. Is it normal for me to be upset over this?

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Based on 88 votes (64 yes)
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  • bunneh
    13 years ago

    I think you're overreacting. I'm a girl and even *I* have all my ex's as facebook friends. Not like I added them after we broke up or anything... just they happened to be my friends before and I don't feel the need to actually remove them. Usually I still speak amicably with them all even if we no longer have any deeper attraction to each other.

    My boyfriend even talks to his ex sometimes too, and I'm perfectly fine with it.

    I think you're having a trust issue and believe me, you don't want to be "that person" that becomes really obsessive over your significant other about their ex's. Next thing you know you're going to start wondering where he's at 24/7, checking his phone contacts, logs...

    Give him a break.

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    • dappled
      13 years ago

      Good answer!

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  • rocket
    13 years ago

    If my husband contacted any of his ex's, we would be ex's. I don't play that, and out of respect and love and ya devotion I do likewise. No roo
    For ex's unless children are involved. There are just too many fish and friendship in the sea, anything false is trailorpark.

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  • mikok
    13 years ago

    You are insecure. You should trust your boyfriend, or you shouldn't be in a relationship with him. Assumably, his girlfriend was at one time, his best friend. His ex should be the best girl for him to be friends with. They tried the romance thing and it didn't work, no need to go there again. If you're going to worry, it should be about all the new girls that come into his life.

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  • 8Serene8
    13 years ago

    I think if the guy doesn't care for the ex and wants nothing to do with her then he shouldn't be adding any of his exes on there. Unless they have a kid together. Otherwise he has no need to have other women that aren't family or mutual friends on there. Men and women need to learn to leave people who were in their past, in their past. No need to involve them in any part of your present life.

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  • MercedesBenz
    13 years ago

    I have seen much worse questions posted. So, this was her question, big deal.

    For me, I don't want my exes keeping up with what I am doing. So, if I had a Facebook account, I would not have them as friends on there.

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  • ~chloebirch~
    13 years ago

    To everyone else, thank you for the feedback. I guess I could be over reacting :-(

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    • [Old Memory]
      13 years ago

      You clearly are but dont feel out of place because most of the stories on this site are stupid ones that dont need asked for the obvious answer. I may sound harsh but that doesnt mean im wrong.

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  • ~chloebirch~
    13 years ago

    If your b.f/g.f has their ex as a friend on FB would you be upset? That was my question. Sorry if it was too complicated for ya. Comment on some other questions now cuz "ItDuz" not matter what you say xoxo

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    • [Old Memory]
      13 years ago

      Em When did I ask for youe question to be repeated? The irony of all this is that you obviously couldnt understand what I ment it must of been to "complicated" for you.

      Now back to the question I asked.
      What part of someone being upset about this is hard to find out if its normal or not?
      Too "complicated" for you? No? Then answer the question because it is the question I asked in my last comment.
      This site is to ask if something is normal or not how is "being upset" about something hard to find out if its normal or not? Moron.

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  • ~chloebirch~
    13 years ago

    To Itduz, maybe you need to read the entire submitted "story" there was a question as to whether or not it is normal. Idiot!

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    • [Old Memory]
      13 years ago

      Back to you.
      Please point out to me what is so unormal about this story. Tell me what part of this hasnt happened to alot of people. Whats that? you cant? well then maybe realise what your talking about before actualy talking....it will do you well in the future.

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  • rocket
    13 years ago

    Else is trailer park

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Ugh stupid teenage idiots yes it is normal what is unormal about this?
    you people seem to forget that normal and non normal things arent the same as right and wrong

    Please next time you go to submit a story thats asking if its normal or not, actualy submit one that actualy needs the answer. Idiot

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  • dappled
    13 years ago

    I have a couple and while I don't keep in touch with them very often, I'd have real concerns about any future girlfriend who asked me to defriend them.

    Besides, if you do want to play the jealous partner, isn't it so much better than you can see any public correspondence between them?

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  • soulsailor
    13 years ago

    Totes unreasonable not every relationship ends horribly he could just be friends with her now, you need to relax and love what you have, not worry about his past relationships I'm sure you have a few hookups on your friendslist?

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