Is it normal for someone to hate women?

My best friend has started this weird hatred of women over the course of a few months. Besides me, she has this rage against women, especially if they irritate her in any way. It's caused by years of women treating her badly, particularly a few girls we used to be friends with.
Her anger is continuously getting worse and its concerning me, as well as a lot of other people. I want to know if this is also a hatred among others, and what I can do to help my friend.

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  • Pika-girl

    Yeah... It's called misogyny/misogynist/miso soup (a little joke there). Um... Yeah... It's alright as long as THEY THEMSELVES are NOT a woman! Then, they'll hate the universe and wanna be a man (Be the man! Argh! All tough an-- ...Never mind...)!

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    • gothrockangel

      I have no idea why, but your comment made my day! xD

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      • Pika-girl

        Aw! Danks! ›¬<

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  • I went through a misogynistic stage. Some would still state that I am a misogynist, and to them I just say they don't understand the definition of misogyny (Hatred of women) because I can say guys are better at some things than women (they are) but that doesn't mean I hate women. (Just for the record I also think women are better at some things, too).

    I went through my misogynistic stage after I went through my feminist stage. I think there are different reasons why one would hate a specific group/gender, and being a male and her a female I doubt our reasons are the same (they could be).

    But I digress. My reasons was that I spent so long thinking women were constant victims, the better gender (yes, some would be shocked), and thinking men are just evil. This might be because of the male negatives in my life.
    It wasn't until I gained a bit of maturity that I realized that although I have had negative males in my life, I have also had an easy life because of the things men have done.
    As I started getting in to the gender issue a bit more I realized that guys' problems are not taken seriously, however female problems were, and in that I was a bit jealous, not for myself but for the male gender, it wasn't justified, as so many small female problems were more of an issue than the legal ones men faced (Can be drafted to this day, lack reproductive rights, etc).

    Due to that I started thinking "Well, hold on. These people, people I was told were victims from an evil society harming them are getting constant help and their issues taken care of by the very society I thought were harming them."
    I started bringing this up to feminists before I became an anti-feminist and realized they were having none of it, they didn't think men had problems and if they did, it was still due to "patriarchy", which I don't think is a justified explanation as to why they would not take action for male issues like they do the female ones. "Ok, it is part of patriarchy, so why not destroy patriarchy by taking issue with strong male issues?", etc.

    Because I was ignorant, I thought feminism represented the female gender, and as my hate for feminism grew, by expansion, my hatred for women grew, I thought feminism and women were mutually exclusive given that most feminists were women and most women I talked to on this issue were females that were feminists.
    I started realizing a while ago that it was "feminism" that made me hate women because they forced their representation on to women and I seen them as one in the same when they're anything but, so it took me a while to realize I can't treat them as mutually exclusive, and now I don't, now the hatred I had for women is exclusively hatred for feminism.

    That is just my reasons for it, perhaps it is hers aswell, perhaps like quite a bit of women I have talked to, they felt the same and due to an extreme does of empathy that isn't exactly a good type, they see women as negatives as they do feminists because they think feminism and women are mutually exclusive and do not care about the issues men have, or at most would say "yeah, it's an issue" and that's all.

    She might also hate women because of her interactions with them growing up, in which she'd need to be reminded that there are bad women out there, like bad of every group, however there are good ones out there and it's unfair to brand a prominent aspect of their identity just because the ones she has met have been negative.

    Try find women that identify with her in aspects, maybe in genre of social activity, etc. Get her to engage with multiple women like her. She'll realize that there are women out there that aren't like the ones she hates.

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    • gothrockangel

      Thank you for the really long, but really helpful advice here. :)

      I know its how women have treated her during our first few years of high school. They didn't really treat her right and a couple of them caused some really bad issues in her relationships. I'm pretty much the only woman in her life she fully trusts and loves. She actually doesn't consider me a "woman". She just considers me as her best friend.

      And you make an interesting point on the hatred for feminism. It makes sense because she actually gets angry at certain behaviors we tend to have. But here's where it gets irrational, she hates it when other women do a certain thing, and yet either me or herself will do the exact same or similar thing. I even bring up that point to her, and she simply dismisses it.

      And trying to get her in with a group of women or girls who can identify with her is not as easy of a solution as it sounds, believe it or not. She refuses to make friends with anymore girls because they keep "screwing her over."

      At this point, I'm pretty much the only one who is showing patience with her and calming her down if she gets angry. She listens to me in the moment, but when it comes to addressing her grudge, she chooses to hold the fire in her heart. But I really hope she learns to change her ways before its too late.

      Thanks again for your advice. :) its a really complicated situation, as you can see, though.

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  • GreyWulfen

    There is never a reason to hate an entire group of humans. You can hate individuals, yes. But hating a certain group makes no sense, it's just something you make up in your mind to feel better.

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    • gothrockangel

      That's what its turning into, actually. But these individuals don't even associate with her anymore. So, even if she doesn't hate the entire gender, her anger is still crazy.

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  • Aliceee93

    Well, I can say I don't get along with women, but I wouldn't say I have hatred towards them. Us women are amazing yano that?

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    • gothrockangel

      Oh, of course! I agree! But my friend has a built up anger. Ironically, she's had more grief with men. So its irrational for her to have this issue.

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      • I just read your profile. So you are a "poth?" Or are you a "gunk?"

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        • gothrockangel

          Ha ha! I'm both! XD

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          • I know your both. sooooooo which one should I "label" you as? POTH or GUNK?!?!?!?!?!?!??

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            • gothrockangel

              Pothunk!

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      • Aliceee93

        Just tell her to caaaalm down :(

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        • gothrockangel

          Haha! I do! All the time! I'm one of very few who can calm her down.

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        • green_boogers

          Maybe her Dad was nice to her, and her Mother was an abusive bitch.

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          • gothrockangel

            That's the irony of the whole situation, actually. Her dad wasnt in the picture. Her uncle was the bad one.

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          • Aliceee93

            Hmm

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  • Avant-Garde

    A misogynistic woman. Talk about an odd combo. Why don't you get to the bottom of this because, she is being pretty silly. If it is due to politics and how they effect here as a woman, it would make more sense to go out and fight for reform instead of blaming it on women.

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    • gothrockangel

      I know it's because she's been through some hard stuff involving women we both know. none of it was good. It is a really odd combo. I'm noticing now that she only hates certain women, and not so much the entire gender. But even then, the anger is completely irrational.

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      • Avant-Garde

        Hmm, I see. Perhaps, it could be that these certain types of woman match up with the types of women that she has been wronged by? I wonder whether or not she's even realizing just how irrational her behaviors. Sometimes, when we have been wronged by someone when blame it on others of the person's same group. In the heat of the moment, we may not even realize just how irrational we are being until who knows how many periods of time later.

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        • gothrockangel

          That is probably the case. And I think some have told her it's ridiculous, and she either dismisses what they say, or she justifies it with, "It's built up anger, and I need to vent it." or, "They made me this way. It's their fault I'm so angry."

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  • KeddersPrincess

    Well, I can definitely say I can understand where she is coming from because I was highly bullied by other females when I was in school and, even to this day, I find them very hard to trust. I can certainly say I, in general, favor men over women but I wouldn't say I hate anyone. It's much easier for me to open up and speak to men than it is women. I don't know. I find that I don't like any woman until I actually get to know her then my opinions may change.

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    • gothrockangel

      That's kind of how she is. With me, since she's known me for so long, she trusts me. But with new people, she refuses to have anything to do with them, which makes it hard for her to really develop other friendships.

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      • KeddersPrincess

        Yeah. I'm the same when. I tend to only be comfortable around my small group of friends and family. Is it a problem for her? For me, it isn't a problem because I'm happy about the people I have in my life. With friends, it's quality versus quality, but if this is something that bugs her then maybe you can try introducing her to knew people. Perhaps bringing around some women that you know and you feel she'd be able to trust. I know that when I meet people through mutual friends, I tend to feel a lot more comfortable with them than if it's a complete stranger that I have no tie to.

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        • gothrockangel

          Recently she's refused to meet new people. Though she has made a few ammends with people.

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