Is it normal for someone to constantly tell you you are fat?

Unfortunately, there are A LOT of people in this world who refuse to listen. They pretend to listen but they actually don't take it in and so they tune out all of what you tell them just to believe what they want. I have a friend who like yourself has PCOS as well. So many people have told her she should lose weight but she is part of a GYM and is overly strict with her diet. She tells me all the time of her struggles and how it'll take her three months to lose one pound and then she'll gain it all back and then some. It's sad to see her suffer but it's more disturbing when people don't listen.

If all women had PCOS once in their lives, they'd understand. I witnessed it with about a dozen people now (family and friends). I even saw how one of them went from underweight to obese in less than a year because of it. I understand and feel for you. I think you should actually have a sit down with her and possibly show her a youtube video on it. I'm sorry you're going through this. Be strong! PCOS can be fixed!

I have PCOS and hypothyroidism. I used to be extremely extremely thin and now I'm not. This is all from these conditions as my diet has actually only ever improved and never gotten worse. Even though I see a dietitian and followed their words religiously, I couldn't lose any weight. I think I lost maybe three pounds in the past 6 months and that upsets me to pieces. So many people are ignorant and assume that if you eat less and exercise more, you'll lose weight but that's just not true for people like us.

I completely understand where you're coming. I would actually print out information from the internet and show her the legitimacy of PCOS. PCOS certainly makes people gain weight as well as make it hard to lose weight. I'm lucky I haven't gained anymore since I got it over a year ago but it was insane. I gained 40 pounds almost overnight it was that bad!

That woman is disgusting. It must be so hard to deal with on top of what you're already dealing with.

The problem with PCOS, is that the right balance of medication/herbal support (in some cases), exercise and diet are needed for results to be seen. Also, you could possibly have other endocrine disorders such as Cushing's syndrome (high cortisol levels) or a thyroid/adrenal/pituitary issue. They seem to go hand in hand when the symptoms get really bad.

Looking into what affordable/free (fingers crossed) treatments you can get really are the best options.

What treatment options do you have for the PTSD, OCD, depression and anxiety? That's a lot for any one person to deal with, and it's great to hear that you're able to eat right and exercise...those things really help with pretty much everything. Just need to get that bitch off your back so that you can keep up the motivation. Good luck :)

She's not showing love at ALL!

If she was SERIOUSLY concerned about your weight, then she'd put her damned money where her mouth is. She'd pay for your Gym membership or help you pay medical expenses and seek treatment for your PCOS. It is absolutely juvenile to give someone a piece of your mind about their weight. 10/10 Most adults know that if the person they are looking at is fat, chances are, said person knows that they are fat. Reminding them is just rude.

*I* study Psychology AND tutor it, so I know that if she is telling the truth, she should be able to direct you to the necessary resources for medical care at a fairly decent cost. It's one of the necessary skills that you have to learn in the process of getting the degree. She would ALSO know about PCOS as it is a hormonal condition which can affect many factors, including a person's behavior. If she DOESN'T have a FULL UNDERSTANDING of PCOS, she should have the skills from school to research it and understand what you're going through.

The MAIN REASON I can tell she is full of herself is because she knows of your history (even if it is a suspicion) with eating disorders and she gives you crap anyway. Eating disorders are among the deadliest of mental illnesses and they are disorders I had to study at the basic level of my schooling. They are no fucking joke. It's a good thing that she doesn't practice because she seems to have ZERO understanding of how to deal with someone who is having difficulty with their weight and health.

Don't husky, portly gals need loving too?

Oh my God. Thank you guys! Your support here is incredibly awesome. Frankly, with her, I was just trying my best to be friends with her because she's my Dad's love and I love my Dad and would never want for there to be discomfort between them and his daughters but it doesn't seem she's cooperating, so I'm going to have to protect myself and accept her lack of emotional literacy without having to swallow it myself. Thank you, so much. Ya'll made my day! :D!
Also, thank you for the advice on the birth control and medical things. I am actually in treatment for the PTSD, OCD, Depression and anxiety. I take meds and am very observant with them because I know what it's like to have friends and family members who have mental health issues and NOT take proper care of themselves. I am on Metformin currently and was on orthotrycyclin,(not sure if I spelled that right?) but then the insurance made it impossible to afford and the Metformin doesn't seem to do much except lower my sugar right after I take it and make my stomach uncomfortable. I'm definitely going to look into the free birth control stuff and clinic options. Eventually, if I don't find my father's wife to be too toxic to deal with, I will most definitely print her out a packet on PCOS. Knowing her, though, she might somehow still decide she knows better than every one else. :P! Let's hope not. Thank you again. It feels good to know that at least, I'm not just nuts or by myself. <3

What a bitch! She has no right to treat you that way, and frankly, its your body. If you wanted to be overweight, that is your right. A lot of people are comfortable with their bodies and its even worse insulting someone who isn't.

I'm sorry to hear about your PCOS, I hear its a terrible condition to have. I have researched it because at one point I thought I might have it, although I bare none of the symptoms except the god awful periods.

I'm not sure about this, but I've heard that birth control pills work great for easing the symptoms of PCOS, so maybe they will keep your testosterone levels down and help you lose weight? Contrary to what people think, they don't make you pick up weight. Birth control pills you can get for free at any family planning clinic and you don't need a prescription for birth control when receiving it at a clinic. Triphasil is what a friend of mine was prescribed for her PCOS, and they happened to give that one away for free at most clinics.

I would deem it normal to criticize or point out flaws in spite of the fact that it is easy to realize that the person already knows what is being pointed out.

It's still an unsympathetic thing to do, though.