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It was the worst date of my life. My ex-girlfriend brought her friends on a date with us to the movies, and to be nice, I paid for all of their tickets. Naturally, I took a break after she did that.
Is this a normal thing couples do on dates or something?
Sorry, but 🤣
If someone had ever pulled that shit with me, I might have forked out for the tickets just because I like to believe I'm a nice, generous guy, but the break from the woman would have started as soon as the movie ended and it would have been permanent.
U were obvious supposed 2 fuck them all. U fucked up buddy. Probably a beta with a girly voice
You did the right thing. No, I wouldn't imagine this is normal but it is socially retarded for her to do this to her boyfriend and a woman that would pounce this on you, which I'm assuming she did, is someone you should throw to the side. Right call on the break.
You don't mention this being a first date? You call her and ex-girlfriend so I'll take it as you have a history and this was not a first date. She would be an ex in may book as well. Unless communicated ahead of time. If I asked her to the movie then I would pay for her and myself. If she ask me or them, I would expect her to pay. If they invited themselves or she doesn't pay for them then I guess they pay for themselves.
While in general I agree that in most cases this should not occur without her telling you in advance; there is a possible explanation that might lesson the degree to an acceptable level; and that can be avoided by communication and some 1st date plans on your part.
SoUNDS_WEIRD mentioned the possibility that she was not comfortable meeting with you alone for any of several legitimate reasons.
How did you meet her in the 1st place? In person, or online or other form of dating/meeting app.
It's always appropriate to have a line in your profile to the effect of: "It's OK to bring a friend or family to our 1st meeting."
This will attract dating possibilities where they want a chance to be sure that you are a decent fellow first...
Then when setting that 1st meeting restrict it to things where paying for someone else is not an issue. I do 1st meets at coffee houses or low cost fast food restaurants, sometimes parks, etc. They are places where we can talk about our dreams, goals, desires, etc. I'd never use a movie as a 1st date as there is minimal time to talk and interact. Most often within 5 minutes of meeting on the 1st meet I know the answer of if there is a possibility of a 2nd meet or not.
Its unfortunate you went though this: Be better prepared in the future and be publicly open about the possibility - and plan for the Lady who does not feel comfortable.
After the 1st meet tell them that they need to notify you in advance if they wish to bring a friend so you can plan adequately.
I wish you the best on meeting dates in the future...
In that case, as she had already met you... I'd say she was not just rude but seeing how much she could use you.
I had a similar thing happen to me once where a lady wished to introduce me to her "few" closest friends... and then brought a large group for a free dinner.
Needless to say that I did not embarrass her; but, also moved on the next day - which led me to meeting my wife.
I'd say Not normal if she didn't ask you if it was okay with you. I'm married sometimes we invite a single friend or a couple along but we discuss our plans and there are no sunrises if a friend is coming with us a movie or our to dinner and they pay for themselves unless we're celebrating a special occasion or them maybe. The lack of communication on her part and that she just sprung that on you is abnormal
I wouldn't have paid for their tickets. I don't think guys should even pay for the date's ticket (or food).
It was very rude of her not to tell you ahead of time, and ruder still to let pay for them all. You need to find a new g/f.
Did she mention their potential presence beforehand?
In today's world it's well within the realm of possibility that she didn't feel comfortable meeting you alone for a first date and would have liked for you to bring friends along as well. Of course it could also be argued that one simply shouldn't go on the date if one is not yet sufficiently comfortable.
Were you seemingly _expected_ to buy their tickets though? If so that's certainly fucked.
Its not normal for them to even let you pay for all of them. But I have been on dates where I brought 2 friends and she broughy 2 friends and it was alot less awkward.