Is it normal for shy guys to act this way if they like you?

I met a guy, who was very shy. Long story short, after about a month of working together I told him that I was "crazy" about him. He said that he thought about approaching me a couple of times, but didn't because he was there to work and wanted to focus on that. He said that was an awesome girl.. I thought that was kind of cheesy, but he says he doesn't just give compliments and saying that was vig for him. I think he was telling the truth about that. He also said that he was speechless, and he smiled alot as he listened to what I had to say.I thought I picked up on different signals that he liked me. For example, he would ask alot of questions about my son and the relationship my son's father and I had. He would also try to be around me from time to time. The day I told him how I felt, he said we would revisit the topic as it was getting late and time to go. I could tell that us living in different states was an issue for him. Although he never came out and said anything. When he went back home, we never talked about seeing each other or anything like that! We still talk from time to time because we have to work together. I can tell that he gets excited when we speak on the phone. I am just so confused about why he seemed interested before going back home but never said anything after the fact. He said a few times that he's a shy person, but if someone is interested, they would make an effort to see you....

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  • Atrumentis

    "if someone is interested, they would make an effort to see you...."

    Not if you're shy. Think of being shy as being crippled: no matter how much you want to walk, you just can't.

    Help him out and make some of the moves for him, he would appreciate it.

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    • Strong2010

      you know, I'm not sure if I can do that at this point. I guess I'm a little old fashioned in thinking the man still needs to be the "chaser". Me approaching him was something I NEVER EVER DO! and I told him that. He needs to do something, I can't get my feelings hurt anymore by all this confusion. thanks for the good advise though.

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  • Well I guess it is pretty disappointing to be straight about your feelings and be met with unclear responses.

    Think of something that will force the issue. For example, invite him on a date (to a movie, dinner, or something like that). If he says yes, fine. If no - drop him.

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  • kenkun

    Not normal, but it can happen. He's just too shy, and perhaps uncertain about how you feel, or unsure about trusting you. Not because you're untrustworthy, but because people in general fcked him in the past, so he's afraid to commit or something like that. Believe me, it's not personal...

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  • ilovemychick

    this is an easy one to solve. just tell him that you will fuck his brains out.

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    • regisphilbin

      lol

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  • Sickle

    Just a though, you sure he doesn't have a wife or a girlfriend back in his state?

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  • alfacuria

    He just needs a bit of say more time around you whatever you do don't criticize or tease in some way that might be taken the other way he just hasn't opened up fully yet.(watch prime time B****)

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