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I'm a 20-year-old girl who recently had sex with a guy I'm not that into. I was having a hard time getting wet, so I used lube. Even with lube, it was painful and uncomfortable. He was of average size, so that wasn't why. I've never experienced pain like this with the other 2 guys I've been with. Is there something wrong with me?
Don't do it with someone you're not fully into. Its painful and sucks. You'll end up regretting it
Usually I have no problems, then I did it with someone I was a bit unattracted to as well and had this same problem. It's normal if you're not into them, there has to be attraction
thats right , the mind makes of pain if it needs to to protect itself from the body. whore out your body fucking a undesirable and the mind will step in and say wait a minute , i didnt consent to this, why is my pussy hurting? oh shit , he going to ejaculate inside me , could be battery acid for all i know .
so how is your mind creating the pain that isn't there ? minds can do anything thats how. some women like ass burn to get off. they have told me so. like fuck my ass all the way in stretch it i need to feel it burning they need the pain to cum. then you create pain where it doesn't exist. i think its your way of saying i dont want to fuck this guy im just doing it for the money. money can mean whatever the fuck it needs to mean. And i be damn if im going to enjoy it so your mind makes pain. see that was easy. sex with this guy is whoring for you and you dont want to be his whore. dont take any of this too badly , after all you fuck guys even if you are not really into them. And if you want to protect your mind , it can imagine a story where you were raped by this guy, and have him locked up. go ahead , happens all the time.
I see you are the type of girl that has sex with guys that you are only half interested in... I think there is a word to describe what kind of girl you are....hmmmm interesting.
There could be something physiological causing the lack of lubrication, but I think your instincts are right: you weren't into him and you didn't actually want to have sex, so your body didn't respond. The discomfort was probably due to you not really relaxing. No matter how much lube you use, if your PC muscle is clenched tight, sex is going to be uncomfortable. At 20, your muscle tone there is probably pretty good even if you don't deliberately exercise it.
So what you experienced is normal. The big question here is why did you have sex when you didn't really want to? If there's anything "wrong" with you, it is this.
He was also pretty damn insensitive for not noticing that you weren't really into it, which suggests your lack of interest in him was well-founded.
An excellent book on female sexuality and the split between what goes on in women's heads and how their bodies respond physically is "Come as You Are" by Emily Nagoski.