Is it normal for repetitive rejection to cause sexual dysfunction?

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i'm not going to repeat my story, but I was the author of this post. http://isitnormal.com/story/is-my-trouble-with-girls-normal-171402/
Whenever I have actually had opportunities to have sexual experience, which has been rare, I experience severe sexual dysfunction. At the same time I do not have problems jacking off.
i have become to have little interest in sex and absolutely hate relationships, but at the same time I really like having someone to sleep with. i do think this is a result of a defense mechanism I have created to cope with my experiences. I think someone can only handle so much before the no longer want to care. I try to be an optimistic person and am very active with my life. I don't believe in giving up, but I wonder if my instincts have turned off my sex drive as a way of coping with so much rejection and negative experiences. At the same time I still go out and ask women to hang out on a regular basis so don't blame my problems on me not trying.

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  • Gspyder
    9 years ago

    I think you need to wait longer to have sex with the girls you date. It doesn't sound like you have the intimacy there yet to make it less awkward. I know that doesn't matter for some people but for others it does, and you have aspergers which makes it more difficult for that connection to form.

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  • Sog
    9 years ago

    They have special therapists to help people deal with the exact kinds of problems that you have.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Therapists have been nothing but bullshit in my experience. I'm pretty intelligent and can think of things on my own.

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  • Mekkars
    9 years ago

    Stress is a big contributing factor to sexual dysfunction.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    That sounds awful. I went back and read that post and feel really, really bad for you. Life has not been kind to you. By sexual dysfunction, do you mean like you become paralyzed and scared? I think once you find the right person, after a while everything will click into place once you feel comfortable and secure with her. It is good to know you are still trying to be active because giving up will get you nothing.

    I think hold off on the sex until you feel comfortable with her, and tell her that you have "issues" so she knows it's not her fault, and it will get better. If you two get to that point and you experience the dysfunction you speak of,then everything will be ok.

    I can see where these awful experiences make you not want relationships and can cause sexual dysfunction though, so I guess that was the main question of the post.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      By sexual dysfunction I mean I have lost most sexual intrest in anyone. I've become mostly asexual but I can get sexual intrest in someone if I get to know them well, and even still I may lost intrest. I just feel no intrest in anyone.

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  • green_boogers
    9 years ago

    Sounds bad. I suppose you could give your girlfriend oral sex for half an hour. Try some whipped cream and toys. You could give her a squirting orgasm with your hand. She'll be very satisfied and may want to sleep in your arms.

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