Is it normal for relationships to slow down like this?

So, I've heard relationships slow down a little after a while. I've been with my boyfriend for a little over a year now and at first we would text 24/7 like most couples at the beginning and we'd see each other at least twice a week. Well, around January, he started getting quieter. Not texting as much, hardly wanting to see me until finally he basically told me he wanted to see on his time when he wanted to, and it honestly upset me. After he told me that, he started acting himself again and inviting me over. What he said made me sound like I was needy, though, and I saw it as all my friend's boyfriends wanted to see them everyday so why doesn't mine. I've realized all relationships are different and all guys are different. But now we seriously hardly text AT ALL or see each other. I've seen him like maybe 4 times in the past 2 months and he lives down the street from me. He's on vacation now so he hardly has service but I only get like 2 texts a day. Every time I ask him if we're okay in our relationship, he says we are and that I worry too much. I know I do but is this how relationships work? From talking all day to hardly knowing what to say at all? This is my longest relationship and I want it to work but I'm wondering what to do when relationships slow down like this and if it's normal.

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36% Normal
Based on 42 votes (15 yes)
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  • KeepsakeDoll

    The red flag I saw was that he lives just down the street from you but the two of you don't see each other that often.

    Talk it out with him. Be prepared for anything that may happen, though.

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  • I am in the same situation but worse. Talk with him, even if he says no or if he gets mad. You guys need to talk. Communication is key. Like someone mentioned, let him know how you feel, what's wrong, why it's bothering you etc. You're probably going to be scared and nervous to mention it and tell him everything. But you have to do it. Or else you will be stuck thinking about it and it will bug you and make you miserable. It is okay to be scared if you are. If he is not giving you your needs, then it's not worth it being all sad and confused and always wondering and worrying. You do not sound needy or melodramatic btw. Don't pay attention to those comments. But anywho good luck!!

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  • UpUpandAway

    He isn't giving you the time you want. He isn't the one for you. You deserve someone who is going to be as in love with you as you are with them. My boyfriend and I have been dating over a year and still text all the time , we would see each other all the time but we are in a long distance relationship.

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  • Johnnytherat

    WHAT IS LOVE?!
    Oh baby, don't hurt me
    Don't hurt me no more
    Oh, baby don't hurt me
    Don't hurt me no more

    WHAT IS LOVE?!
    Yeah

    Oh, I don't know why you're not there
    I give you my love, but you don't care
    So what is right and what is wrong
    Gimme a sign

    WHAT IS LOVE?!
    Oh baby, don't hurt me
    Don't hurt me no more
    What is love
    Oh baby, don't hurt me
    Don't hurt me no more

    Whoa whoa whoa, oooh oooh
    Whoa whoa whoa, oooh oooh

    Oh, I don't know, what can I do
    What else can I say, it's up to you
    I know we're one, just me and you
    I can't go on

    WHAT IS LOVE?!
    Oh baby, don't hurt me
    Don't hurt me no more
    What is love
    Oh baby, don't hurt me
    Don't hurt me no more

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    • Bluedinodaisies

      Omigosh.... XD this made my day

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  • Fall_leaves

    communication, find out why he needs more space. Tell him why it bothers you, express your fears, if you're worried about things then tell him how he can help.

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  • donotmockme

    You need to have a serious talk with him and tell him how you feel and see what he says. This is completely abnormal and sounds sadly like a falling out of sorts.

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  • Sog

    He's on vacation now, stop bugging him so much. You do sound very needy if you can't make it though the day when he isn't in town.

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  • supernova443

    Have you had sex with him, maybe he is getting bored of what you are doing?? Try to make things more exciting, and maybe act like it isnt a big deal until he comes rushing back to you?

    It sounds like maybe he isnt the right one for you if he is treating you this way...

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  • (s)aint

    Dude, no this is NOT normal.

    He is obviously gotten tired of you ... Tell him to shape up once get gets back from vacation or you are OUT.
    You deserve someone who wants to be with you.

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  • TwoThumbs

    Um....This does not sound like a healthy relationship. Seeing someone twice a month and living minutes from them is not a couple.

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    • Sog

      She only saw him twice a month because he's on vacation. She's being a melodramatic .....

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      • Bluedinodaisies

        Actually it's not because he was on vacation. Thank you.

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