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Ok, so basically I'm a 18/19 year old guy from London, Britain. I grew up in a semi-religious family, stopped going to church when I was in year 5 (10 years old), attended an all-boys school after kindergarten and have never met a memorable girl since I left kindergarten. I didn't interact with females since then. I don't know when this damn thing started, but I am really shy around people, even my relatives (as in like I don't talk unless I am talked to) ... and this is really annoying me. Anyways I have three elder bros, and they are really like sociable and everything (bringing girls back to the house) and they're really chill during social meetings (and I'm like stiff and everything). They are kinda domineering ... and so is my dad ... like telling me to do "manly" shit and everything since young and I'm kind of ashamed of not being able to step up to their expectations. Yeah and my mum ain't helping with telling me how to follow in the footsteps of my bros and everything. I've always kept to myself and yeah I guess I'm opening up this question, so ...

Is it normal for a person like myself to feel nervous and like mentally breakdown whenever I'm around strangers? I feel like a complete loser ... and like I've never achieved anything. I don't know what the heck is wrong with me ... but I've never attended like a social gathering without enjoying myself. All the while I'm like nervous and anxious and shit and yeah I feel real bad in school and everything ... yeah and I was taunted before and I basically got into a fight and everything. Some of my classmates tell me I'm like overserious sometimes and kinda unapproachable. And also one more thing. I always stay at home during holidays, like I dislike going out with friends and stuff.

Is it abnormal?! Or part of the growing process? Cos I'm always frustrated when I come home from a social outing and I can't dissect what went wrong and I always feel really really really bad after interacting with other people! Am I like fucked up? Do I have a problem?

NO! It's not normal, you're a sociopath! I got no solution for you. 0
YEAH! It's totally normal, just chill. I had it too. 23
NO! It's not normal! But chill - you can solve it if you ... 10
MAYBE! I dunno ... maybe I'll find out. 4
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  • q25t
    11 years ago

    You sound like an introvert in a sea of extroverts. There's nothing wrong with you. Interact with the people you like when you like.

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  • Kaory182
    11 years ago

    You might outgrow your shyness. Some people do and others remain the same. I got over my shyness with my first job as a cashier. I used to be so shy even simple things such as ordering food, walking past a group of people, making a presentation and meeting people was a difficult task. I would get anxiety and even panic attacks plus I would sweat a lot. But all that ended once I started interacting with customers at the register. Interacting daily made step out of my comfort zone.

    It's normal that your an introvert but you should find a solution if you feel that it is a problem. I mean, if you want to. If your happy being like this then do what you enjoy.

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  • anti-hero
    11 years ago

    What the hell does 18/19 mean? Which is it?

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    • NeuroNeptunian
      11 years ago

      Jeez, you're silly.
      It means he is caught in a time paradox and he is 18 or 19 but neither age at the same time.

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      • anti-hero
        11 years ago

        Thanks for clearing that up love.

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