Is it normal for partner to hide you from his colleauges

I have been in a 7 year relationship with my partner, we had our ups and downs like every relationship would go through.

I found out he cheated after 6 years of dating and I forgave him , even tough our relationship took 360 turn, the trust was gone .

So he was remorseful and he asked for forgiveness and he even confessed to his family what he has done to me , since im known at his family, and his known at mine.

because he wants to settle down and Marry me, his family even notified my family

So we always put each other profile pictures on whatsapp so , you can imagine im still senstive because I have been hurt before and trust takes time to come back.

so every time his at his workplace i would call a lot, to check up on him.

I have been to his work place before only happened once,since he was new there, he wanted me to come see his work place.

so he disabled his profile pictures from his colleagues, they cant see who he puts on his whatsapp , i asked him he said he wants to keep his life private, and reason why we fight a lot its cause people will steal our Profile and wish bad things, since we are in process of marriage.

if he disables from friends i understand, friends can be jealous plus they know our personal life, but at his work place his new.

or did i cross the boundry bu calling alot? hence he disabled his pro pic.

n he says his avoiding for his collegues to see me on his pro pic because I am the topic at his work, so he says his saving me the embarrassment

so is he up to something? or what? or his just innocent just prefers his life private? should I be worried.

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  • finn

    I don't think people truly reform. Once a cheater always a cheater. That sounds trite compared to your vested feelings in this person but essentially that's what it comes down to.

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  • (s)aint

    My boyfriend likes to keep his life private.

    But the combination of him cheating and this? No.

    Don´t trust the fucker. He cheated, got caught and now he will probably cheat again.

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  • TrustMeImLying

    Wait. He's saving -you- the embarrassment? (referring to your second last paragraph). How would you be embarrassed? If he had said he was doing it for himself, I could believe that, but saying he's doing it for you is what strikes me as odd.

    Anyway, being a private person who doesnt have their profile pic visible to everyone is not uncommon.

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  • Tealights

    You calling a lot is actually a normal reaction after being cheated on and remaining in the relationship. You two need to work on rebuilding the trust, talking out each other's feelings thoroughly, and understanding why he cheated in the first place; however, since he doesn't know how and think an apology is enough to move pass this, he probably disabled everything so he doesn't have to explain what's going on and who is calling him so much.

    You two need couples counseling to get through this. Because you're unable help how hurt you feel, and he shouldn't ignore your pain and hide it from everyone to keep up appearances.

    New job or not, you're his girlfriend/wife, you should always come first.

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