Is it normal for parents to check kids email, phone , text and accuse

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So apparently and this has become more and more common in recent years since the death of that retarded child because some chick dumper her over the internet . I personally think its kind of sad to kill yourself over a internet relationship but I do not think it was right for the other girl to pretend to be a boy and egg her on knowing that she was suicidal and slow . Anyhow the point is after this they started making commercials encouraging parents to snoop in there Childs things . I mean on top of ruining the trust between the child and the parents , parents do not realize there is things a parent does not need to know about there kid . They masturbate sometimes think you are being unreasonable, sometimes they have a crush on some one you do not approve of like a goth boy , or that vampire kid . Just because of this does not make them sick feinds. I mean making your children increasingly none trusting and super paranoid will eventually make them hate you . This is something that caused me myself issues as a child and I already was treated like krap by all my friends and most people I knew . The fact was at one point I trusted my parents this made them despise me and hate me . Thanks to this commercial my parents got the idea of going to my mail and searching the things that were going on with me at school . Not to mention my parents were already over possessive and over protective . This lead to my phone and texts being checked everyday and my father periodically accusing me of being a whore who was sleeping around just because I got a text from a number that had a different area code . Which most people had because they moved from out of country and out of state . Should we really be encouraging adults to search through their kids phones , texts and emails and accusing them of being sluts everyday of their lives since they were 10 ? I mean what if their was video camera implanted in your bathrooms and toilets to see if you flushed and showered each morning and someone was always watching you ? would that not drive you insane ? I mean the fact the media would push this and is pushing it to this day is not right ? If I have a child In my life I am not going to bug their phones, their email , their texts . yeah I know this is old news and has been happening for awhile but since everyone on here is 18-up I would like to know what adults think about it . Since I think we can all agree children must hate growing up this way . I do not have to deal with it since after I became an adult my parents seemed to lost interest .

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  • jucedaguy
    11 years ago

    The new world order wants us to all be a society of snoops and dibber dobbers. That way it makes it easier for them to keep us in check and not think or do for ourselves.

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  • Dad
    11 years ago

    No, as well.

    Its a matter of trust.
    Parents should trust their children are doing the right thing, due to their good upbringing ;)

    By the way, parents DO get involved with much of a child's personal life, but not by reading their personal diaries or checking emails/txts etc.

    Usually parents know when there may be a concern to ask the child what is wrong ;)

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    • Allistalla
      11 years ago

      alot of parents do now becuase the media suggested it .

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  • Wendell
    11 years ago

    I think no because privacy invade is for the kid bad and losing trust parent will hate by them

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  • nightmare28
    11 years ago

    While this might be an invasion of privacy, at times it might be necessary. Not too long ago I read on the news about this father who felt something was not right with his daughter' 12 years old, spends most of her time on the computer closed in her room. He took the computer to the police station to have it thoroughly checked, the police found out that she with have an online relationship with a "17 year old guy" who turned out to be a pedophile taxi driver in his mid 50s. I'm sure this story is not one of a kind. All in all, if those check-ups help parents know what their kid is up to, which might also be drugs, alcohol, or contact with the wrong people, I say the parents should go for it. Of course teenagers might hate their parents for it, but teenagers will hate their parents regardless as long as parents put some boundaries to those teens, but when the teenagers grow and become adult themselves they will thank the parents.

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