Is it normal for no contact whatsoever

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My partner and I have been together for 3 yrs. He tells me every day he loves me, how beautiful I am and how he is so lucky. He told me I am his for as long as I want him as he wont be the one to ever leave. Now you might think this all sounds perfect but.....
When he is away 2 days a month with his children he texts and phones and if I am working or driving and dont get to answer quickly he becomes suspicious. We talk on the phone on these nights for hours about nothing really! If I meet a friend, which happens very rarely he thinks I am cheating and I get question after question! Yet when he goes away to his home city every 3 months or so, he tells me to keep in touch and misses me etc, yet he either switches his phone off for 48hrs or leaves it on but doesnt answer it! He isnt with his kids then, he is staying at a brothers house.His brother is an alcoholic, serial cheater himself! But then after 48hrs phone goes back on and he rings asking if i want him to come back! This is totally contradicting his behaviour towards me when we are apart, if I behaved like this he would get up and leave! Is it normal to act this way or could he maybe be cheating?

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  • madme
    12 years ago

    He is suspicious of you because he is probably cheating. Even if he's not cheating, relationships tainted by jealousy are miserable. Get out before he tries to control you more.

    By the way, what happened to his relationship with his kids' mom? Did he cheat on her?

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  • norm
    12 years ago

    There are a couple of things possible here.

    Sometimes, we view others thru our own eyes - we see them as we are. If I am a cheater, I might be more suspicious of you than I should be. A possibility.

    If I am actually cheating, I will definitely be less trusting of you.

    Maybe, just maybe, since you are so beautiful, he realizes that you will have lots of opportunities/invitations from other guys. This would make any guy nervous, and I think you can understand.

    About the cell phone thing: tell him that what is good for the goose is good for the gander. You will start giving what you get. If he turns his off or ignores it for 48 hrs, you will do the same. If he wants to be able to talk to you, he must make himself available.
    It's only fair.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    turn yr phone off for 48 hrs and let him leave if he wants

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  • andrian007
    12 years ago

    At the moment, there is no evidence to point towards his cheating on you, but this is very strange behaviour indeed. There is no consistency there and this guy is big trouble.

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    Why don't you just ask him why he does this?
    Why don't you go with him sometime or just turn up as a surprise? Dangerous but effective! Be sure you want to know what he's up to though!!!

    Sounds a bit strange to me, just coz I believe that you judge people as you live yourself.

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    • bigtoy
      12 years ago

      I agree with you - the jealous types are generally the first ones to do what they accuse the other of doing because they know it's possible to do without getting caught (or so they think!)

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