Is it normal for my step daughter to...

My partner has three children before we met two sons and a daughter. His daughter is 8 years old and used to come stay with us for a month during the summer and then on other holidays for a few weeks. While i was pregnant she told me i was lucky her dad was still with me n that she thinks i should leave and take my unborn baby with me. This really upset me and i told my partner about it but nothing was really done about it. On another occastion she told me her dad had lots of other girlfriends and shes surprised he hasnt left me yet then she says maybe its because he really loves you or maybe hell leave u tomorrow. I have now had my baby and she and her two brothers came up to visit. She was told by both me and her father not to touch the babies head ( because of the soft spot) and she continued to touch his head anyways. She would smile at me and touch his head and i would have to yell at hernot too and then she gives attitide saying why not i want to you touch his head. Also, the baby was crying one time and she laughed and said you just do this and grabbed a pillow to put over the babies head!!!! I was very upset about this. She has now moved here with us full time and im scared to have the baby around her at all and my partner doesnt understand. She even told me one day that she saw her dad punch me in the face ( this has never happend) so wen she said she saw this i laughed and said she was beinh silly no such thing ever happend and yet she refuses to believe me. The reason she is here full time is she says she ws sexually asulted while living with her mother but no charges were made cuz there is no evidence i sort of think this may be something she has made up like her father punching me in the face. She is however mow talking to councillors now that shes here im scared she will make up stories about me and her father that may result in my baby being taken away from me. She has been here 3 weeks and has already gotten in a fight at school and pulled a chair out from underneith a metally challenged student. Is any of this normal 8 year old behavior?

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  • JumperCableLips

    These comments make me angry. She needs help. 8 year olds don't just lie about being sexually abused. If they do, they probably are being abused sexually or not and aren't giving all the details. Why? They're 8.
    This is a huge developmental stage in a childs life, and abuse can really fuck with a kids brain.
    I was diagnosed with a personality disorder at 14, and my psychiatrist thinks it's due to the abuse I endured from 6-9 years old. It's very common, and effects different people on different levels. Apparently, it affected me severely. It sounds like it affected your step daughter even worse.

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  • Bellapro

    I'm with you bubber - video tape it for evidence.

    She sounds psychologically disturbed, you and your partner need to get to the bottom of this before she hurts someone - your baby is too precious to risk it.

    Get her diagnosed right away for autism, Aspergers, trauma, whatever it may be. This little girl needs help.

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  • bubber

    You're gonna have to videotape this as evidence if you want your husband to believe you..

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  • AngAnders112

    She is the spawn of Satan. I'd start worrying about who your partner really is.

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  • instazombiinaboxx

    She is either a sociopath or she really was abused and has simply become a product of her environment. If the latter is the case then it's best for her that you all took her in so that maybe with tlc, she might be reformed and become more normal. You have to think of not only your babies self interest, but also the best interest of this poor child who has obviously not been loved or looked after properly. She is so young. She deserves better and since she is so young it will be easier to help her change into a decent human being. It could also be that she just doesn't understand some of the things that she is saying. Most children aren't even spitting out their own ideas or opinions because children's ideas and opinions are based on what they know. She is most likely repeating things that she has heard. I'm not saying that you shouldn't be worried about your new baby. Protect him and keep a careful eye on him around her. But don't let her attitude keep you from treating like a child should be treated. Don't alienate her. It will only make her worse. She needs love.

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  • soccernerd12

    I would check her for a strange tattoo or birthmark that resembles "666". You should also watch the Omen. It might be educational....

    Seriously, though. Her dad probably is ignoring it because she's his little girl, but if it's like you say, this kid needs help...maybe a hospital stay at one point. You have to put the safety of your baby first.

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    • Antir0b0t

      lololol yes.

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  • limiter

    Protect your child. If your partner sees no issue with what is happening then you need to get out of that situation. That girl needs help but if the father condones her behavior then how can anybody help her?

    Worse, if he's perfectly fine with raising his 8 year old that way, then what will happen to your newborn?

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  • sarahrocks24

    She has issues. Protect your baby around her..I agree. Worry about who your partner truely is an and video tape her.

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  • randomjelly

    She's a little shit...but she is still a child with some serious issues. Also, for her to even know what sexual abuse is at such a young age screams that something isn't right.

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    • I_steal_free_bread

      speak the truth!

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  • Neapolitana

    It sounds to me like she has been abused. I'm sure that this is not what you want to hear, but you and the therapists need to consider everyone in her life as the possible culprit(s) of her abuse (ie her mother, father, older siblings, mother's boyfriend, etc). She clearly needs intensive treatment, and since you are aware of the severity of the situation, I urge you to really make a push for treatment. She's obviously not getting what she needs from you two alone. Hopefully, if she gets with the right people asap, she can get on track to being a healthy, happy kid an adult. Good luck to your family!

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  • nAt2017

    She needs help. Usually I write more, but that's all that can be said. It's one thing to be shaken up by a divorce or remarriage, but that kind of behavior is completely unacceptable.

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  • UniqueOne

    Try and talk to her, ask her about her past and what she likes, try and get close to her so she trusts you, then if something happens she will listen to you.

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  • anonymous420

    This makes me think of Damien in The Omen

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  • Esperanza123

    I thought this behavior had stopped and today she suggested we kill my newborn. She suggested this seriously without a smile or laugh i didnt even no wut to say. I told her you cant just kill people and she asked why. Then i explained about murder, and jail and nut houses and she ssys ohhhh. Wtf she is so screwed up

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  • slytheringirl

    This girl needs help. Try to find someone to help her adjust.

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  • danooyl

    Instead of being protective of your baby and denying her. Why not try to involve her more. Remember people meet aggressiveness with the same amount of aggression. It might be hard, but if you're able to include her as a family and treat her as your own. You will be a powerful mother to your current baby. Remember to love.

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  • vbmg152

    She needs counseling! Sounds like a cry for attention/help! You'll regret it if you don't get help for her!

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  • funnigyalxx

    no way man she probaly got isssues herself u need to check her out at the hospital dont be scared just help her xx

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  • alv1592

    she definitely needs help. i agree with everyone else, something's wrong with her.

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  • Aww satan the little bitch is back

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  • alextsang08

    The chair part seemed pretty funny to imagine.

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  • arby391

    For me it sounds like she's been abused she's taking it out on the baby. and on other people who are as you could say useless like mentally challenged student you mentioned. :( I am young I am barely freshman but intelligent and have a lot of common sense. There's price something disturbing her. it sounds like she has a lot of anger, and she was probably jealous of you. try to talk to her or have your partner talk to her. have a family meeting try figure it out
    good luck.

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  • sloppy_seconds

    why don't you just dump her on the street in some random town she's never been to

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  • Inspector019

    She needs her ass whipped! Sounds like a spoiled brat that has to much control for a child.

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  • DudeUrFuglyXox

    sounds like shes an evil bitch, or else maybe ur depressed frm the pregnancy or paraoid.. i duno lol but if all tht really happened she is one fucked up lil kid

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