Is it normal for my step dad to treat me like this?

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i just turned 19 recently, and about one year ago i met my birth mother. she is currently married to a man who isnt my birth father. in the beginning of my relationship with my stepfather i never really like him, he's verbally abusive with my mom and our dog. there was one time where he shoved me off a table, because i was leaning on it. well anyways last week my mom went away to sarnia for work so it was just my stepdad, my grandfather and i left alone at the house. my stepdad and i went out to this bar and grill my family always goes to for karaoke, while there he asked me to dance but i thought nothing of it. well the friday after that day, i was going to toronto and he didnt want me to go but myself, so he insisted on driving me all the way knowing we had no money for gas. which was honestly out of the ordinary for me. well today i was in the kitchen cooking and playing music and he came behind me and started dancing with his body against mine. i acted like i didnt realize because it wasnt for too long, the a couple hours later he touched my ass. i honestly dont know if im overthinking anything, because now hes saying when he has money hes going to give 100 out of it so i can but a pair of heels. please help because i dont know what to think.

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yazidex

8 years ago

No, this is definitely sexual harassment. Please talk to your mother or someone about it and be safe!

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goodlittleboy

8 years ago

My stepdaughter started teasing and leading me on from the time she was 15 or so. It was her way to get me to take her side of the normal daughter/mother skirmishes, get pocket change, basically have me on her side. She has now been married to the same man for 11 years and has 3 kids and I am still married to her mother.

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JoeMayhem

8 years ago

sounds like he want to have sex with you and your leading him on. Its gonna get you into trouble. sounds like a pre-rape story to me. that is assuming you haven't been leading him on because you have the hots for the guy.

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technoson

8 years ago

you need to inform your mother yesterday

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fratom

8 years ago

Don't blame yourself He is totally dis-respecting you especially that you are 19 years of age: While you are in a catch 22 situation with him: your mother's partner/husband/step-dad: Your mother must be told or at least made aware of it: He does not seem to be a nice man if he speaks rough to your mother and was rough with you pushing you off the table: Value and Respect yourself: if your close to your grand-father tell him. But don't blame yourself.. your mother must protect you from this sicko minded step-dad. feeling he can take advantage of you because: Stop it NOW.. don't be thinking about it.. if you have a good right foot and someone to protect you turn around and lash out into his most vunerable of parts: make him feel the full kick.. then smile:

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wistfulmaiden

8 years ago

I'm surprised at the thoughtless comments by some. No it's not OK at all and I suggest telling your mom immediately. He put you in a bad position it's hard to know how to react. Make it clear to your mom he is acting sexually toward you.

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thefuckup

8 years ago

Cut his dick off.

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Ellenna

8 years ago

You need to be much more assertive and not let this man or anybody else invade your physical space.

He's a creep, you need to keep your distance and make it clear you're not interested in him in the way he's obviously interested in you. Just say: "Please don't do that" and move away from him, out of the room if necessary. You don't have to explain or discuss it, he must know this is inappropriate and he's seeing how far he can go.

Can you get some support from your mother?

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Gooddaddy

1 year ago

Don't listen to the previous people. Just fuck your stepdad, get the money and do what you want. Besides it's hot for a stepdaughter to want her stepdaddy

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mastubation_freak

8 years ago

That is really not normal. If you feel uncomfortable with him doing that tell someone this could end bad.

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theseeker

8 years ago

Your stepfather is dangerous. I know this because you say he's verbally abusive, and potentially physically abusive. He doesn't seem to have much respect towards your family. It's completely obvious he's coming on to you, and he's probably a sick fuck. You should tell your mother, and work on getting outta there ASAP!

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peycoca

8 years ago

He wants to fuck you. GET THE FUCK AWAY

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riotgirling

8 years ago

First of all, I have to make it absolutely clear that none of this is your fault. NONE. If anyone tries to pin this on you, please keep in mind that you are not at fault. It is not okay for a parent or step parent to make sexual advances towards their stepchildren or children, no matter how old. Even though you are over 18, he is in a position of power over you, and regardless, sexual harassment is defined as any unwanted sexual comment, gesture, or advance. If possible, you should tell your mother or someone else you trust who can help you. It is very important that you not remain in that environment with him, because it is possible for his behavior to get worse. You have a right to remove yourself from the situation if possible, and you don't have to feel guilty for telling your mom or reporting him or whatever it is you end up doing. Depending on where you live, you can search the internet for hotlines or resources to help you decide what to do.

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thegypsysailor

8 years ago

I don't understand why you would go to a bar and dance with your stepfather (rather inappropriate anyway, IMO) since you don't like him. Again, why would you spend HOURS in a car with a guy you don't like? And then you let him "dancing with his body against mine". No, no, no!
I can certainly see how he can believe you have no objections to his touching you. I believe you have been giving him the wrong signals and they aren't even that mixed.
Time to put your foot down and stop all this right now. Don't be too surprised if he doesn't understand why you don't want him to continue, as you have definitely been leading him on.

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- Ellenna
  
  8 years ago
  
  She hasn't been leading him on, just because she's young and hasn't been taught to be assertive doesn't give a predator the right to sexually harass her.
  
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  - thegypsysailor
    
    8 years ago
    
    Sometimes girls must think!
    You are old enough to understand mixed signals. No stepdaughter should ever allow her step dad to sexy dance in the kitchen! Come on, be serious here. If you saw your 19 year old daughter, repeat 19 years old (not 13), sexy dancing in the kitchen with your husband what would you think? "Oh, that's so cool"? I doubt it.
    
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    - Ellenna
      
      8 years ago
      
      I'm definitely old enough, but she obviously isn't, and surely we all know times when affection or even friendliness has been mistaken for a sexual advance? I had it happen to me a couple of years ago: I was not giving mixed signals but the bloke misinterpreted my friendliness as being much more.
      
      It sounded to me as if HE was doing the sexy dancing, not her, but that she didn't know how to stop him. I'd be amazed if I'd ever seen my daughter sexy dancing with her father at the age of 19, because he was dead by then: seriously though, I think OP's stepfather is the one giving mixed signals in the guise of affection and he's the mature adult so no wonder she's confused.
      
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      - thegypsysailor
        
        8 years ago
        
        Well, I guess this is another one where we must agree to disagree.
        From a guy's point of view, oft times we do misinterpret the signals we get from gals, but they could be a bit clearer, too.
        If one is making a course change on the water to avoid a collision, it must be a significant and noticeable change, not just a few degrees, so the other vessel is in no doubt of your intentions.
        
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        Ellenna
        
        8 years ago
        
        I knew boats were female, but women aren't boats.
        
        I agree we should all be totally clear about our intentions towards others, but in OP's situation she's a young women and he's a mature man: surely the onus is on him to behave responsibly towards his stepdaughter and not act seductively? There's an imbalance in power here which can't be ignored and I object to her being blamed for a situation she didn't create and obviously doesn't have the experience to handle.
        
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- suicidePOS
  
  8 years ago
  
  Did your stepdad molest you? Or are you a molestor?
  
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  - thegypsysailor
    
    8 years ago
    
    Oh lordy, lordy, lordy, how fucking intuitive you is! A fucking gawd damned Nostradamus! All hail the one who be knowin all.
    My gawd man, you truly are a fucking moron, aren't you?
    
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    - suicidePOS
      
      8 years ago
      
      That sounds like a 'yes' to me. Sorry to hear that your step dad raped you. That explains a lot
      
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      - thegypsysailor
        
        8 years ago
        
        Oh yes. You jest kept stickin it in my 12 year old pussy till I yelled "Oh, suicidePOS, you my stepdaddy! you my stepdaddy!"
        
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        8 years ago
        
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- sweetylollypop
  
  8 years ago
  
  first off i grew to like him i just never knew him well before. and im suppose to be comfortable around him hes the father of five of my siblings. he offered for to take me to toronto, and we were stopping in sarnia to see my mother. i had no wrong in this. he just took advantage of me, when my mom wasnt around. now i try to never be a lone with him. all girls dance with their fathers there's nothing wrong with it.
  
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  - suicidePOS
    
    8 years ago
    
    Why did you post this in sex category? Gross pervert.
    
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    - LollieSweets
      
      8 years ago
      
      You're right tho. Why is this in the sex category if not part of OPs sick step father fetish.
      
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  - GiveMeAFuckingNameAlready!
    
    8 years ago
    
    Your first mistake is thinking men like to dance.
    
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  - thegypsysailor
    
    8 years ago
    
    But he is NOT your father. I do not think it appropriate for a young lady to go to a bar and dance with her stepfather.
    You should have shut him down the very first time that he touched you, but you didn't, leaving him thinking he had your tacit permission. To me that's leading him on, even if you didn't mean to do it.
    
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- derpyderp
  
  8 years ago
  
  Fucking gypsy...
  ANY excuse for a dirty old man to fuck something young ha!
  Keep dreaming sunshine
  
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  - NeofelisNebulosa
    
    8 years ago
    
    I can't believe he's blaming this on the girl.... Girls that age and younger do not have the assertiveness to push a grown man away when he is doing creepy things to them. If someone had done something like that to me a few years ago, I would have frozen in fear. It's a different story now, but this is definitely not the young woman's fault.
    
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    - derpyderp
      
      8 years ago
      
      You've got it all wrong.
      It's not creepy - he's trying to share his wisdom & experience with you.
      
      He will show you the time of your life in the bedroom.
      & you want him to, whether you realise it or not...
      
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    - thegypsysailor
      
      8 years ago
      
      Are you serious or are you trolling? This "girl" as you call her, is 19 years old. Old enough to join the military. Old enough to hold a job and have a family. Old enough to know better than to sexy dance in the kitchen with her stepfather.
      Perhaps she is simple minded, or a downs syndrome child, but since she didn't mention these things, I can't take them into account.
      Hell yes, she is definitely at least partly to blame.
      
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  - thegypsysailor
    
    8 years ago
    
    If you learn reading comprehension someday, you might be able to understand the adult posts on here. Till then, enjoy your tiny fantasy world.
    
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    - derpyderp
      
      8 years ago
      
      For an old cunt you sure are a childish little fuck aren't you...
      
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      - thegypsysailor
        
        8 years ago
        
        And again you revert to the profanity that comforts your muddled mind when adult, intelligent thought fails you, right?
        
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        derpyderp
        
        8 years ago
        
        Please. I've pissed on things with more intelligence than you can muster
        
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sexysonofsam

8 years ago

You must be careful fantasizing about your stepdad little girl, he belongs to your mother! Just now he will rape you because of the signals you are sending to him.

I suggest that you rather take your schooling more seriously and get yourself a good education before you find yourself being somebody's little slut toy!

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ReloadWTF

8 years ago

You should go to the police. AND PROBLEM SOLVED!

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green_boogers

8 years ago

Talk to the staff at a half way house for battered women. They might know what you can do to stop the harassment.

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