Is it normal for my sisters in law hating me for over 10 years?

I know it sounds crass but you should kick her in the cunt whilst no one is looking.

WTF. Slap her, but then again, if you slapped her she may lie about you and put you in a bad light...

Its crazy what people have to go through to show their in-laws that they truely do care for their spouse.
I say you put a hidden camera or voice recorder the next time your sister in-law takes your children out so you can record her and when the time is right let everyone hear what has been said about you.
That is basically the only thing that can make her parents believe you,but even then they might be in denial.

Your husband has to deal with her directly and firmly because she is trying to undermine his marriage and family. The stuff with the kids borderlines on nuts.

He should stand up for his family. You should stay out of it. Don't get sucked into her making you an issue because you're fighting with sissy. It is time for hubby to show he has a backbone.

She is pushing your buttons. She's hoping to cause an issue so big that you'll just walk away. Kill the b***h with kindness - that will really grate on her. Obviously, if she oversteps the mark by poisoning your kids with lies, you let her know you won't stand for her crap, and that she will not be allowed any one on one time with them in future. She sounds like a nasty, manipulative piece of work who needs to let go of her foolish fantasy that her friend is meant to be with him. Have your husband have a word to her, but in future, be sickly sweet.

You need to move away from them get as far away as you can people can be volatile and if after ten years they are still bitchy like this then they are never gonna change.

Not to that extent, but..My older sister gave my now ex-wife hell for many years..Not overt hell..Worse. Passive-aggressive hell. Worst part was, out of my two sisters, ex wife always thought it was only one who didn't like her. Nope..Was both. I heard it all the time.

Older sister even went so far to often mention when one of my ex-gf's, from the same town, was available, divorced, asked about me.. Prodding me to "give her a call, text her..you know her a long time".

That is horrible! The best solution to your problem is to completely cut them off from your life and your children's lives. Talk to your husband about it and make sure he supports you in this.

Dont let your in laws corrupt your children that way. or prove them a huge lesson by committing suicide. I feel like your "husband" needs a lesson in standing up for his wife before someone stands on his penis...

I know what u are talking bwt, I'm having the same problem with my sister in law differece is there's no other grl in between but she just hates me in a way that she fails to hide it. And I have a child with her brother too , and on one ocassion she chased my my child out of her house , my child was 3 at that time. I just ignore her and its working so far.

She sounds like a very small, petty person without much in her life to be happy for. If someone puts that much energy into hating and attacking you, I would do my best to ignore and avoid them. Perhaps your husband could have a word, diplomatically?

If someone like her needs to be that awful to you *so* badly, they're desperate to feel better about themselves.

She was confronted by my husband right away about her f***ed up remarks to my kids about how I'm not their real mom and that Joanne (the ex) is their mum. Her response was "sorry, it was just a joke hahahahahaha". If I was that type of girl I would've knocked her teeth out. But this only happened once!! And it still haunts me. What a disgusting bitch she is.

She always smiles and acts polite, so not many people see the ugly side at all. It just makes me look and sound like I'm a paranoid liar.

I'm weak when it comes to people's opinions of me. My husband has said that he'll confront her about all the other things but I beg him not to. And that's only because if he does, she'll think/know she is winning this pathetic game she is playing. She'll think her plan is working and go off and tell all her friends how its affecting me and that I'm jealous of the ex.. Bla bla bla.

I was just curious to know any other opinions on this matter. But seems to me I should continue just being nice. Maybe. Until one day I explode at her, which isn't far off I think.

Thanks guys

Awww, you guys are awesome.
I have never caused any problems or confrontation with them. It's true, they are some piece if work. Especially the younger one who goes on about the ex (eyes rolling). I know its to push my buttons. im not jealous of her or anything like that. Its the fact i believe she is always talking about her to possibly cause tension in my marriage that hurts. Stuff the ex.. shes an ugly sl*t. seriously!! she shagged most of his friends back then too.

The sister in law had her first child this year and asked her best friend to be the Godmother and my husband Godfather. I can't tell him not to.. It's his sister for crying out loud. I told him its his choice but that it makes me uncomfortable. All of the guests know the history and I'd feel humiliated and disrespected that my husband is standing at the altar with his long gone ex. I know it's stupid. But I was embarrassed to even go. Luckily he was man enough and devoted enough to turn down the offer after he found out she was godmother and not me or the other sister. Since then, I'm the monster!! Geez.

I just don't attack and continue being pleasant.

How dare this sister in law say that to your kids - so irresponsible! Does she have any idea? Pathetic. Sorry you're having to deal with people like this.