Is it normal for my partner to...

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My partner always needs to know what I'm doing on my phone, even if I'm just playing on one of my apps. She needs to know who I've messaged, exactly who is in my department at work etc. Before me she had a string of exes who didn't treat her very well and I feel that she has brought those feelings of being hard done by into our relationship. I don't lie to her when she asks me questions, yet, she never seems to believe me and she gets really, really angry and starts yelling and screaming. She has a lot of hang ups that I feel are attributed to her ex partners & even her parents. She never, ever believes me when I tell her the truth or try to reassure her about anything. She's so quick to accuse me of things which are completely untrue. I love her to bits & when we're getting along we are so fantastic together. Are her tantrums normal? I don't know how to appease her insecurities.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    10 years ago

    She sounds batshit crazy.

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    • londonbridge
      10 years ago

      amen to that

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  • Elliemental
    10 years ago

    The offspring, she's got issues!!
    I'm seeing this girl and she just might be out of her mind
    She's got baggage and its of the emotional kind!
    She talks about closure and that validation bit,
    I don't mean to be insensitive but I really hate that sh*t!
    Awesome song! Listen to the whole thing infront of her! It made me rethink my twatty behaviour!

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  • RoseIsabella
    10 years ago

    She probably needs to see a therapist.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      I suggested that nicely recently, only to be greeted with a barrage of screaming and yelling. I'll try again :)

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  • Inspector019
    10 years ago

    Many people have suffered at the hand of poor parenting and or bad relationships, yet everyone doesn't behave this way. Hopefully you will come to your senses and stop making excuses for unacceptable behavior before you find yourself years deep in an emotionally, verbally abusive relationship that is hard to escape/recover from. Good Luck. You aren't overreacting and you aren't crazy to feel this way. It isn't healthy, and you will never be able to comfort or please a partner who behaves this way. It is her problem, not yours unless you choose to accept it. She knows better and no excuses justify it, they will only enable her behavor to continue.

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  • Kerry69
    10 years ago

    You will both need to seek counseloring Good luck

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  • dirtybirdy
    10 years ago

    P-p-p-poke her face p-p-poke her face.

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  • Killah_B
    10 years ago

    Your girlfriend has had a rough past in her history of relationships. Obviously she has been cheated, betrayed, and lied to before. I am assuming something happened with her parents, too. That leads to trust and abandonment issues. She feels like you are going to leave her for somebody else, somebody better.

    There is nothing you do to fix her insecurities. She must do this herself. The best you can do is be patient with her. This is going to become a problem so I really think you need to sit down and have a serious discussion with her. Tell her that you completely understand why she feels this way, but it is not right. It is not okay to lack trust in your partner.

    Seeing a professional therapist/psychologist/counselor may help the matters but what she seeks is within. She must realize that no matter what you do or say, she is always going to feel this way. It is up to HER to change her attitude and perspective. I hope this helps.

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  • imadragon
    10 years ago

    I think she loves you but she is affected by her last relationships. You said they didn't treat her right and she is scared the same thing is going to happen. And she can't help but being anxious about what you are doing, but I think she wants to trust you. You can read about girls talking about this problem all over the internet in different forums.

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