Is it normal for my mother to hate me because i'm a girl?

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I feel like my mother loves my brother more than me. She always says he should've been born first and that would have given her a lot of pride. She never wanted a girl in the first place. She says everyone is jealous of her because she has a son. That makes me feel worthless...like I'm nothing so people won't be jealous of me. Okay, maybe I'm overreacting there but she also bad mouths me with my brother...and he's only 17. I'm 21. My brother steals money from her, lies, fails miserably in school and loves my dad more than her. But she only picks on me and scolds me for even the smallest things. Whatever nonsense my brother does is justified and it's okay for him to bully me because he's a BOY. When I failed in school or lied, I was beaten mercilessly with everything in the house and nobody felt bad about it. Even now, my mother is worried about losing my brother and not me...whereas I'm the one who's been hurting myself and I'm feeling very suicidal. This feeling of worthlessness and not being wanted is miserable. So is it normal for her to hate me because I'm a girl and supposedly useless?

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Based on 57 votes (10 yes)
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  • wow4602
    12 years ago

    It's not norman but I understand. I am the youngest girl of 3 and my brother was the baby. He could do no wrong and god forbid us girls do anything to him. It's pretty messed up but try not to let it bother you. Some people are just old fashioned like that

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  • LightningTechnician
    12 years ago

    Definitely not normal, sorry to say this but your mom is being a hardcore bitch and your brother is a jackass who is a little spoiled brat. A parent should love their child no matter what gender the child may be. If I were you I would have left from those idiots a long time ago. But that's just me. Oh and next time when your brother tries to bully you, smash his head with a plate or something.

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  • Jayy
    10 years ago

    Damn, chinese people.

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  • forever_anon
    10 years ago

    Definitely not normal, but I can relate. I don't think my parents have ever gotten over their disappointment that I, their firstborn child, was a girl. When I was born, they didn't even have a girl name picked out because they were soooo sure I'd be a boy. In subtle and not so subtle ways, they favored my younger brother over me. In their eyes, I could never measure up, simply because I was a girl. Unfortunately, it's unlikely that your parents will stop being sexist, so my best suggestion is to move away as soon as you can and try to build a good life for yourself outside your brother's shadow.

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  • penguin1
    12 years ago

    I'd suggest that until you can move away from them, find someone you can talk to. Maybe another family member or a friend. If no one's available, try counseling. YOU ARE NOT WORTHLESS! Remember that.

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  • asdfjkl;
    12 years ago

    normal to me. but when my brother steals, i'm first to be questioned.

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    12 years ago

    i'd suggest moving out then.

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    My mother in law hates her son and male grand-children, she only likes girls. She won't even buy the boys birthday or Christmas presents.

    She's an idiot too.

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  • kellstar79
    12 years ago

    It's not normal. Move out as soon a stout can. I know it will be hard but try distance yourself from them. Your not useless or worthless because your a girl. Your mother is just nasty and mean and your 21, it's time to move on and move out

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