Is it normal for my husband to be such a douche to our son?

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I have 3 kids, 11, 7 & 5. The 7 year old is a boy. My husband treats him different than the girls. He screams at him at the top of his lungs to "clean his shit up" and says, "I'm gonna kick your ass" when he doesn't do what he is told right away. My son comes to me sobbing pretty frequently because my husband scares him and he is afraid he is going to "get him" or "hurt him". The other night after he screamed at him, my son told me that my husband sometimes "smacks" him when I'm not home. (Sorry about all the quotes but these are their actual words).

My husband has a severe head injury that affects his speech, mood and impulsivity. The effects seem to be getting worse as he gets older. He had been consistently showing very poor judgement with what he lets the kids do and how he reacts to them, to the point of it being a safety issue. Because of some of these actions, and other reasons, I have decided to separate from him and seek primary custody. He doesn't know this yet

But regardless, is any of his behavior towards my son even close to being a normal father-son dynamic? My husband grew up without his Dad around, so it's not like he had anyone to learn from.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    yes make the move for the poor boy

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    LOL. I read the topic wrong at first.

    I thought it said IIN for my husband to douche our son.

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  • mscurriouus
    9 years ago

    I'll just say this - you're doing the right thing.

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  • ParadiseLost1323
    9 years ago

    Get an effin divorce.

    (What I would do)

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  • My02cents
    9 years ago

    The other threat i also received form a parent was: " If you`re naughty again, i won`t be here one day when you get home from school."

    At the age of six, i got treatment for a stomache ulcer due to worries.

    I reveal this to show that physical and mental abuse can change a change a child`s life forever.

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  • My02cents
    9 years ago

    Get your son out of this situation as quicly as you can.

    To grow up in fear of a parent scars you for life.

    When i was very young i was told many times when i was naughty:" Just wait till your dad comes home and i tell him how naughty you are."

    My dad worked shifts and i always went to bed before he got home..being so scared...

    Protect your son at all costs and love him with all your heart.

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  • brankinton
    9 years ago

    His injury may be the reason why he is acting the way he is but there could be other reasons. Maybe your son is naughty (just a suggestion). Fathers treat their sons like their own father/mother treated them. My dad used to smack me around my head or bottom when i did something naughty and i used to cry, (my mother was worse) but now i'm a strong mentally and i resist pain more compaired to normal people so maybe your husband is trying to 'toughen' up your son?

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  • Mersaphe
    9 years ago

    If he's treating the boy differently from the girls, that means he's purposely targeting the boy. If he's treating all the kids the same way, it's because he's whacked in the head.

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  • KeepsakeDoll
    9 years ago

    I'm sorry to hear this. And no, it's not normal since your son seems scared for his life.

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