Is it normal for my husband to ask this of me?

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MY HUSBAND AND I HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR 2 YEARS BUT TOGETHER FOR 4... WE HAVE ALWAYS HAD A NORMAL SEX LIFE... NOTHING OTHER THAN VERY CONSEVATIVE.... HE HAS RECENTLY SKED ME TO SOME THINGS OUT OF THE BLUE THAT HE KNOWS I AM NOT COMFORTABLE WITH.... THE ONE THAT BOTHERS ME THE MOST IS HIM ASKING ME TO PRETEND I WAS A GUY...AND DO THINGS THAT WOULD GO ON WITH A GAY COULPLE.... IT MADE ME FEEL VERY UNCOMFORTABLE IN OUR RELATIONSHIP....AND WHEN I FIRST MET HIM I THOUGHT HE WAS GAY.... AND HE IS IN THE SERVICE AND IS AROUND NOTHING BUT MEN NOW... SO IT LEAVES ME WONDERING IF MAYBE IT IS JUST NOW COMING OUT... WHAT SHOULD I DO... AND HOW SHOULD I DEAL WITH IT...?I AM SO CONFUSED....

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  • [Old Memory]
    15 years ago

    Sounds like he might be BI and you say your conservative so he would be afraid to tell you this

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  • missy_bitch
    13 years ago

    Well, i really don't know what to tell you and these other ppl shouldn't either.I can't say hes gay because he might not be and i can't say hes not gay because he might be.See so thats a question you should confront him about tell him your unconfortable and tell him "im not saying you are gay but it seem that way" and see how tht goes for you.
    Missy-Bitch

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  • normalized
    14 years ago

    well, if he really does into that BI stuff, i think you should talk to him about it... and then do what he wants...

    that, of course, if you dont wanna lose him...

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  • BigRedOne
    14 years ago

    Sounds like he prefers the JOHNSON!!!

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  • gawkyporcupine
    14 years ago

    i agree with simba
    maybe he is just trying to be experimental and doesnt know how to put it to you in the best light
    you should sit and talk with him and try new stuff
    spice it up a bit

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  • simba1
    14 years ago

    This could be acompletely normal request from your husband. Times have changed, and its no longer just a case of the missionary position in the dark! My husband and I have been together for 5 years, and recently visited a sex shop. It was an education to say the least!!! In a long term relationship,you need to keep things interesting. a mans prostate, (located in the rectum), can give him a more intense orgasm than "normal" sex. You can even buy prostate massagers for this purpose. We bought a strap-on, and are having brilliant sex. It drives him CRAZY!!! However, just because this is right for us does not mean it is right for everyone. My man is definately not gay; He is the manliest man ever. Communication is the most important thing, and if you are not happy to do it, then stick to what you are happy with.

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  • Kamarov
    14 years ago

    Put a strap-on on.

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  • awatcher
    14 years ago

    Odd, but imo, i would rather do this stuff with my man than have him do it with someone else. That is what married life is part of after all. We women have a lot of sexual hangups. But try to be a bit more experimental. Good for the marriage. really. I had to learn this over time.

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    Bi (maybe, or just fantasy) or not - ask him - but even if he is it would appear that he is trying to maintain sexual fidelity within his marriage with you. Let's face it - he has plenty of opportunity for homosexual sexual experience otherwise.

    So that makes him, like you, pretty conservative. The question to me is can you reconcile your sexual interests? You might want to get counseling for yourself there to sort out your feelings and you might want to give your guy some credit for opening up to you. I hope you don't flame him for that.

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    • poorebaby20
      14 years ago

      It would almost be believable about the fidelity thing but the other problem is he has also asked to bring others into our relationship before this "me being a man" incident. He has wanted to call me by one of my very close friends name also. Puts a lot of doubt in my mind that he is happy with me and things with us. A marriage is hard enough to make work and then when you add someone trying to make you into someone your not it is even harder. And another factor is that after the first thing he brought up, I let him know how much it bothered me and he said he understood, but then continuedto bring more things up.

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  • brothershamass
    15 years ago

    I need some clarifacation, does he want to shag you up the arse, or does he want you to shag him up the arse?

    If it's the former, there's still hope.

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    • poorebaby20
      15 years ago

      ummmm.... he wanted me to pretend i have a penis nd i was using it on him... and to add to it he is not home with me it was over the web cam... he is deployed.... so he is only around guys.....

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      • [Old Memory]
        15 years ago

        I think ur dude is bi i know someone who also wanted up the ass from his gf and he is bi.

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  • BadMood23
    15 years ago

    It's not a good thing to do for some one he loves and you love him back! No, DON"T DO IT!!

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  • [Old Memory]
    15 years ago

    Why don't you just come right out and ask him why it is he wants you to act like a man when it comes to sex maybe he will just come right out and admit he is a bisexual. You said when you first met him, you thought he was gay so if he is bisexual or homosexual, then I guess it wont be such a surprise will it?

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