Is it normal for my guy friend to be such a girl?

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I'm a girl and my friend is a guy. He's always asking how I feel about him and what I like and dislike most. Also that we should spend more time together and we can "just talk". He's always talking about "feelings". I feel like most girls would want a guy friend like this, but it makes me feel awkward! I'm not good at that "And how does that make you feel?" stuff. I feel like, in this relationship, I'm the dude and he's the chick!! Also his feelings are hurt very easily and I have to think of a way to apologize...IIN?

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  • diaperwolf21
    11 years ago

    If he's straight, then that the most flamboyant hetero Ive ever seen. If he's gay, then IDK.

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  • Anime7
    11 years ago

    To an extent I'm the same way. I know a lot of guys frankly that really like conversing with people. Sometimes guys just want to talk and get to know a person. I think your friend is normal.

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  • johnny1326
    11 years ago

    god forbid that a man have feelings and express them! Arent all men supposed to act like emotionless robots? you sound like YOU are the one with the problem. Opening up to another person about things is HUMAN and apparently you arent human. :) i hope i pissed you off

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    • jellyjelly
      11 years ago

      You didn't.

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  • kelili
    11 years ago

    If talking about your feelings makes you a female... Pfffff

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  • Paradiddle
    11 years ago

    Definitely not normal in this case, solely because he isn't even a boyfriend. Now if this was a relationship and he was asking those questions (in moderation) then I'd have to give him props for respecting feelings. Though being hurt easily sounds lame honestly, what could you be hurting his feelings about as friends? I'd question whether said friend is good to even continue hanging out with. =/

    As an edit, perhaps you should question him of whether he is looking for something a bit more than just friends and if not, let him know that all that feelings stuff is making you uncomfortable.

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    • jellyjelly
      11 years ago

      He does like me, I'm just not there yet. I understand that guys are allowed to talk about their feelings, but this is just a little overboard for me. Not what I'm used to at all

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      • Paradiddle
        11 years ago

        I see, in that case then I would just take it that this guy is a nice guy and is just doing things the nice way. Given recent events, I'd have to take my answer back and say it is normal, just not the way most guys would handle things which is unfortunate. I'm not sure what to say about this, it looks like you can't help being uncomfortable but the guy isn't wrong, its a tough situation.

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    • Charmo
      11 years ago

      As someone with a lot in common with the guy described, I just want to say this made me feel like crap. Particularly, "I'd question whether said friend is good to even continue hanging out with." Well, at least I know now why I don't have any friends anymore...

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      • Paradiddle
        11 years ago

        No need to be offended even though I can completely see why you would be given what I typed. I'm sorry my post was offensive however I still can see those kinds of behavior being annoying to someone who isn't a boyfriend. If you're hurt easily on things that are actually insults then I can very well see being upset about that. If the topic creator is the one wrongly offending her friend then that is wrong too. But if someone is getting hurt about tiny things that aren't meant to be insults then I could see that as a problem.

        Asking someone if they'd simply like to hang out and chat isn't a problem and asking someone "How does that make you feel?" isn't particularly bad if it was a rare question but a lot could be annoying. I'm not a bad guy, I'm actually quite nice so again, sorry if my post offended you. Acting this way too much could still be annoying to some so yes, I could see it being a problem to others. If you are simply a nice guy who likes conversation then I wouldn't worry too much. Showing off how macho one is and acting tough is overrated anyway.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    Some guys are just that sensitive. You should play fight with him.

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