Is it normal for my girlfriend to think these things are okay?

33% Normal
18 Comments

I started dating my girlfriend 4 months ago. I am 19 and she is 20. It was going great, but the semester ended and we both live far away from each other. We talk everyday still and that was going great. Now for my problem. My girlfriend is extremely attractive, as in her guy friends will tell her that they love her and want to be with her. She is also one of those girls that is "only friends with guys" so her best friends are, of course, guys. We started dating a different way, so I was never one of these guys. Her best friends have all professed their love to her, and she tells me these things, making sure to say that she rejected them. But, the next day she will go to dinner with them one on one or hang out with them in her room one on one while i'm in class or busy. This leads into us being home because she started telling me how she was going to hang out with a kid that "loves her" and how they are going to lunch and just generally chilling while she was home. I told her how I felt that it was disrespectful for her to go on a lunch date with a guy that loves her one on one while we are still dating. This caused her to explode and freak out saying that I need to trust her and that she wouldn't ever do anything to hurt me. Okay, I get that, but I still feel that is is disrespectful. The last thing that I am going to share is the sex life excuses. I value sex in a healthy relationship, and she says she does too. Before when I tried to initiate any form of sex, I would be shut down. I have received 4 excuses: She went to fast with another guy and doesn't want to mess this us (I thing this excuse is BS, it just sounds like she liked that guy more), she was on her period (I understand this one), she has no control is anything starts and she isn't on birth control (I had condoms and I have self control), and the one that hurt the most "I don't like my body right now". The reason that it hurt the most is that my girlfriend is in shape. She has the abdominal line that most girls strive for, with that being said, she goes to the school pool all the time (every 2 days) in a skimpy bikini. If she hated her body, why would she show it off to complete strangers. I do not go to the pool as I do not like the pool. Yet she wont let me see her in less than shorts. She got mad at me when I brought up my concerns. I didn't accuse her of anything, I just told her how I felt and she got mad. I really don't know what to do. If you think I'm crazy, just be honest. If this is normal girl behavior, tell me that too. Thank You.

Voting Results
33% Normal
Based on 18 votes (6 yes)
Help us keep this site organized and clean. Thanks!
[ Report Post ]
Comments ( 18 )
  • Arm0se
    8 years ago | pl

    She's hiding something; and if she's not she's still a horrible person. She freaked out on you because you expressed your concerns to her, ad then she still does it knowing how much it bothers you. That's not something a nice person does. Hanging out with guys one on one that say their in love with her? If she not cheating, she's leading these guys on and she knows it. Break up with her before you get hurt. (speaking from experience) Your not her boyfriend, your her plaything.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    8
    8
      -
    • YuhThisIsAThrwoaway
      8 years ago

      Thanks for the response. To add, she says that if she pushed all the guys that profess their love to her away, she wouldn't have any guy friends. I'm not telling her to not be friends with guys, I'm telling he to hang out with them in groups with other girls. especially if the profess their love to her. She told me that every time she passes one of her friends that she had to reject, its just sad and awkward. She said he was a nice guy and not a douche and because she did what I said, they aren't friends anymore. But, she also said she had to reject him twice and both times he knew I was dating her. That sounds douchey to me, but she will have non of it. I just don't want to end it and have her string together something like "He had no trust in me" and have me lose my mutual friends over it. I'm sorry for ranting, I really needed to get this off my chest.

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      0
      0
        -
      • NeofelisNebulosa
        8 years ago

        OP, whenever a girl acts evasive and is flirting with other guys, it's a bad sign. My ex would get mad at me whenever I questioned her, and it turned out she was cheating on me with one of my friends. She sounds like she's vain and used to male attention. Dump her!

        Comment Hidden ( show )
        4
        4
    • NeofelisNebulosa
      8 years ago

      Arm0se is correct. She sounds kind of fishy.

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      0
      0
  • mystery7
    8 years ago

    Take it from me (a man with lots of experience), you could just about bet your left testicle she is cheating on you. Or if she hasn't she soon will.

    I have had the same thing happen to me. I wanted to trust her and believe her but she was a cheater.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    3
    3
  • green_boogers
    8 years ago

    She wants as many men as possible to lick her boots. Kneel down and have a good lick.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    1
    1
  • Nokiot9
    8 years ago

    Wow. Ur gf is one of those women I HATE! Lol. She knows how hot she is, and uses it to her every advantage. She keeps all these guys around, leading them on, feeding them just enough false hope to get free dinner and drinks and shit. Sounds like you picked a real winner. And everyone knows that girls that only have guy friends are bad news. They either have really bad daddy issues, or are just the biggest sluts ever. And wether it means whoring your body out with sex or just your company for dinner, it's still messed up.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    1
    1
  • chained_rage
    8 years ago

    Grow a backbone and dump that skanky hoe.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    1
    1
  • JD777
    8 years ago

    Yep, I agree with the others. I've seen this behavior and it never seems to work out well. I'd run, not walk, away from this one.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    1
    1
  • abigdick
    8 years ago

    My guess is that she is having sex with the other guys and wants to have a relationship with you as long as she can have an open relationship. She will be your gf and do various sexual activities with you. It seems like she needs to have sex with more than one guy. It can work but you need to be understanding of her needs.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • normalpeoplescareme23
    8 years ago

    I wont know, I'm not normal girl, I'm a weird, crazy tom-girl.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • Aries
    8 years ago

    don't trust her , leave her immediately . If you let her walk all over you she will end up hurting your heart . If you want to give a shot at establishing your dominance this could set her straight but if not , she just isn't ready for a meaningful relationship like you are .

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • (s)aint
    8 years ago

    Don´t accept that behavior.

    If any of my guy friends told me they loved me and wanted to be with me I´d distance myself from them faster than the speed of light.

    And you are also correct, if she hated her body she would not show it of to strangers in a revealing bikini.

    There´s probably another truth to it. A male friend of mine and his girlfriend were both virgins so they waited until she was ready (About 5-6 months into it if I´m not mistaken)

    But she has already have sex and it has been four months. Do you do ANYTHING sexual?

    (And by the way, even if you have great self control you don´t notice when pre-cum slips through so always wear a condom)

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • modernism
    8 years ago

    There's a huge chance that something's going on that she doesn't want you to know about. It'd be best to leave that relationship. As it seems, it's bound to end sometime, and she doesn't deserve you anyway.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • [Old Memory]
    8 years ago

    It's always, always, ALWAYS a red flag when a woman has a bunch of guy "friends". And it's almost always an attractive woman in these scenarios.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • anti-hero
    8 years ago

    http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Paragraph

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    -2
    -2
      -
    • LuxM4G
      8 years ago

      Lol

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      0
      0
    • RoseIsabella
      8 years ago

      Oh snap!

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      0
      0