Is it normal for my girlfriend to text with a guy she kissed with

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hi

so im dating a girl, we aren't officially together but we promised to be faithful to each other because we like each other. it's basically a relationship.
Thing is, i like her a lot but im kinda jealousy. Just one month before we got together she kissed with a guy she met at a party. Now I noticed she is still texting with him but she said not to worry about it because she says hes just a friend and she doesn't text any inapropriate things to him. I let her know i dont trust it because she doesnt let me read it.. but she says its just privacy whats in her phone and that im not allowed to just read all her chats. when i mention it she guarantees they r just friends and nothing sexy is said in that chat... i dont understand because they dont even know each other that well.. how can that be such an important friendship.
Is it normal what she does or am i on the right end

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  • RoseIsabella
    7 years ago

    I personally think it's kinda iffy. I have let my man look in my phone and he let's me look in his, but we don't spy on each other. I don't think you ought to spy on her, nor do I think you ought to expect her to let you just inspect her phone whenever the mood strikes you, especially since ya'll aren't "official" yet, but I also don't think it would be such a big deal for her to let you see.

    I do think it's kinda suspicious that she's still texting this guy if she's supposedly into you. I would personally be a more than a little suspicious if I were in your shoes. Perhaps she's keeping him around in case it doesn't work out with you? I honestly don't know, because I'm not a mind reader, but it's not unheard of especially if two people are not officially together. Try not to take it too personally, at least not until there is a commitment. I don't know what your situation is with this chick, but don't get too sexual or spend too much money at this point. Take it slow so you can see if she's someone you want to be serious about or not. The less obligated both of ya'll can feel about each other at this point the better. Don't crowd or suffocate her if you're really interested. Understand neither of you owns the other party, and it won't be a horrible tragedy if it doesn't work out. Don't try to make her and this relationship something that isn't.

    If for some reason you do the sneaky, dishonest thing and decide to spy on her by peeking in her phone be prepared for whatever you see. If you see something you don't like don't freak out and act all possessive. Just be smart by leaving her and moving on with your life.

    She's not the only girl in the world.

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  • (s)aint
    7 years ago

    If this had been someone she kissed years ago and is now a close friend with? I´d have agreed with her.

    But to talk a lot with someone she obviously found attractive? She´s stringing one of you along, or both.

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  • funlovingbitch
    7 years ago

    U must have trust in any relationship if you cannot trust her you should not be with her I read all my husband texts and he mine openness it a good thing

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