Is it normal for my girlfriend to do this?

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My girlfriend and I have been together for about six months, I'm 18 and she will be in a few months. We have never done anything really physical like kissing or sex, but we have hugged a few times.

Today me and my girlfriend were walking and she slipped and fell. When i held my hand out to help her up she flinched, and brought her arms up over her head. So i pulled my hand away and after a second she got up on her own. I guess i had a weird look on my face because she said, "im really sorry. I didnt mean anything." i told her it was ok and shrugged it off, but she seemed different the rest of the time. She wouldnt make eye contact with me at all, and when we got back to my house and decided to watch TV, she huddled on the other side of the couch. When she went to leave i hugged her and she got really tense and started shaking. I asked her what was wrong and and she pulled away really fast and said, "im sorry, nothings wrong, im sorry." and left.

I know her home life was pretty sucky. We have only been dating for six months, but have known each other a while longer. I remember one day she showed up at school with a huge bruise across her cheek. I asked her what happened and she said nothing, but after i pressed for awhile she said "My dad.. But it was my fault i got a smart mouth." she flinches and twitches a lot, even when i shift my leg or something. I've tried to get her to talk about things, but i've only gotten bits and pieces before she brushes it off.

is it normal for her to do this? What can i do to get her to realize i wont hurt her. I would never hit a girl, ever.

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  • imadragon
    10 years ago | pl

    Her father obviously abuses her. He'd probably do it even more if he found she told someone. If she has been living like that all her life, it's no wonder she has a hard time trusting people.

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  • macaroniheyo
    10 years ago

    I'm not sure what you can do in this situation but she needs to get the hell away from that guy.

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  • TheThinkingJuan
    10 years ago

    Definitely sounds like a victim of abuse. My ex- wife was like that when we first got together. If she doesn't want to talk, don't push it. It will eventually come out as she gets more comfortable with you. Definitely have her see a counselor, and make sure she's not in an abusive situation currently. Realize that things will take time, but if you treat her right, you can show her that not all men are the same.

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  • Shiakuwe
    10 years ago

    It's normal for someone who has been abused, It's been years since I've been abused and I still cringe inside when people touch me.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    This is not normal at all. I don't know why you even have to ask. Honestly if I were you I would go to his house dressed like a door to door religious person. Keep something like a hammer or knife or even a small gun in your backpack. Offer to do chores for him and when he invites you in, "bam" no more douchebag dad. If anyone witnesses what happens it will be blamed on the Mormons.

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  • Mark92
    10 years ago

    Her dads a monster!

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    10 years ago

    Thank you all for your answers

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  • bewwolliwhtom
    10 years ago

    I suspect that she is being abused on a regular basis. It sucks having to be this person, but telling a adult is really the only way to help her. Sounds like she will be therapy and a lot of love. Poor girl.

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  • StarTeddy
    10 years ago

    Sounds like she might be a victim of sexual abuse...that could explain her negative reactions to physical contact.

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  • Kerry69
    10 years ago

    Stick by her.

    Go to your local Police station and report the father.

    Ask for a female officer Good luck :) .

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  • RoseIsabella
    10 years ago

    Is her father a heavy drinker? Alcoholics and drug addicts tend to be terrible, abusive, neglectful and sometimes even sexually abusive parents. I really hate people who abuse children, they're like walking talking pieces of shit; human garbage.

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  • Avant-Garde
    10 years ago

    She's clearly displaying signs of abuse. I think you should call the cops on her dad.

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  • sexaddict567
    10 years ago

    dude find out. Her parents could be beating her, or worse.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      I already know that her pop hits her, and her ma aint around. I just don't know how to make it stop. We've been thinking about running away. It just pisses me off that she always tries to blame herself instead of blaming her bastard daddy for what he does to her. How do I get her to trust me and stop being so damn touchy?

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      • bosslady714
        10 years ago

        Dude, I can almost guarantee she is being or has been molested by her dad. Those aren't just signs of physical abuse, but I would definitely talk to an officer about it who specializes in this area.

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      • philosephorSteve
        10 years ago

        Call THE COPS ! dont let her go through that bs

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