Is it normal for my girlfriend not wanting to have sex after 3 yrs?

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I´ve been dating this girl, for over three years, she is 21 and I am 26, but she doesn't want to have sex. She says she is a virgin, and I have not had much sex before either(just twice). She tells me that for her, having sex is a very important decision and that she only wants to do it with the person she is going to marry. I thought I was that person, but she has doubts. I don't want to be unfaithful, but I am really desperate. Now, she is in college in Texas and I am a graduate student in Boston.

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    12 years ago

    "I don't want to be unfaithful, but I am really desperate."

    It sounds like you're trying to convince yourself that it isn't wrong to cheat.
    Especially if you blame her.

    If you cheat, own up to your own decisions
    - YOU decided to cheat. No one forced you
    - admit that you're putting your orgasms first and your feelings for her second

    or accept what she told you 3 years ago... that she's going to wait until married, and work out your frustrations in your hand or a flesh light until your wedding night.

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    • dom180
      12 years ago

      Although I disagree with lots of your other opinions, your advise on cheating is always spot on the money. A lot of people could learn a lot from what you have to say about relationships.

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      • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
        12 years ago

        lol thanks.

        that's prolly cos i wear 2 hats. one is "sick humor" and the other is "blunt honesty".

        usually it's kinda obvious which one i have on =)

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    • Alison89
      12 years ago

      Solid advice.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    They say that abstinence makes the heart grow fonder...but it does not really help with natural sexual urges....

    Total committment in any loving relationship involves total trust and open communication....if either party does not feel that it can abide by this edict...then the relationship must be dissolved....it is a hard fact...yet so true..

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    • Daxus
      12 years ago

      Yes I agree, so from what i listen to you guys, i should just tell her the thruth and depart!

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  • lc1988
    12 years ago

    What doubts does she have?

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    • Daxus
      12 years ago

      She said that she can never be sure I am going to be her husband until we are married.

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      • lc1988
        12 years ago

        Well I guess you need to respect her for that then and wait until you're married. If you can't, then break up with her.

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        • Daxus
          12 years ago

          Yes I know you are right, I just want to convince her, but it's a lost battle. I don't have the sexual savy, I have little experience in these matters. I would love for her to be my last woman, but I am not ready to marry just yet. I will have to talk about this with her maybe one last time.

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          • lc1988
            12 years ago

            Do you think she'd let you back after you had a few escapades?

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            • Daxus
              12 years ago

              Haha, If she doesn´t find out haha. The problem you see, is that i want to have sex, but with her, not just sex with other girls. just with her. i 've waited 3 years fuck.

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            • Daxus
              12 years ago

              Not really, I think the best course of action is to tell her honestly what I think, and to leave, and spend time alone to really know what I want, and this time "alone" would have to include being with other girls to see if that is what I want.

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            • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
              12 years ago

              I'm betting the answer is "no".

              Girls don't like being cheated on. especially if the man uses the excuse that "well you wouldn't put out".

              no one ever died of being horny.

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