Is it normal for my gf to get this upset?

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Well this is actually about my most recent ex-girlfriend. We had been dating for almost a year, very serious, living together for around 4 months.. I would say she probably has more friends than me because she is in College and goes out allot. It was my 21st birthday, (she was 20). It fell on a Tuesday so I decided to have my party on that coming Friday so it would be more convenient. The day of my birthday she surprised me when we were over at my moms house and they bought me some gifts and a cake. Right after that was finished a friend called me and wanted me to go to the bar. I asked her if I could go and she told me yeah.. The girl that invited me I had been intimate with before but we never dated but my girlfriend knew that already.. So I had a really good time, I called her later on that night and told her what was going on (I was drinking with a bunch of friends and co-workers; me and her worked together).. Later on that night the girl that brought me in the first place asked me to go with her and her other two friends to her house.. I was so drunk by then that I didn't end up going home.. I left early in the morning though.. I got back and she was asleep and I woke her up with a kiss.. She pushed me away and we got in a huge fight.. her complaining that i should of came home.. I didn't realize I had done anything wrong.. It was my birthday but the only reason I didn't bring her was because we were at the bars and she wasn't legal yet.. So it was rough the next few days.. One of her friends said that I kissed the girl at the party ( Which I DIDN'T!!) and we got in another huge fight.. A few days later she broke up with me.. Am I the bad guy here? Isn't a relationship based on trust? She has a gazillion of guy friends and stays out all night but when I stay out all night it's a bad thing.. She was a virgin before me, but I had been with girls.. Does that make it right for her to not trust me? I seriously loved this girl with all of my heart and I'm still not over her.. It's been a year since that.. Thanks for reading all of it!

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  • mtnw
    14 years ago

    you didn't act trustworthy. trust isn't a gift that is bestowed on you, you have to earn it, every day.

    probably it was never really "ok" with your girlfriend, but she was trying to be accommodating to what you wanted.

    but, spending the night with someone who you have already been intimate with? i assume you mean you had sex with her. you turned this "friend" into a fuck buddy, and you keep seeing her, then you expect your live in, former virgin girlfriend to trust you. never going to happen!

    you are very young, and yes, immature. you could try to contact your lost love and see if she'd agree to start seeing you again (this means dating, not living together.) if you really love her, then be prepared to prove it, firstly, by keeping your pants zipped up! if she has moved on, then you have learned a good lesson that your behavior effects others.

    i hope things work out well for you, one way or the other. you will find, as time passes, that a great love at the age of 21, is something you can get over.

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  • jenn
    13 years ago

    It sounds like you already know you deserve better. Move on hun

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  • mlbryan44
    8 years ago

    Switch to guys and suck a few off. They will like it and so will you.

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  • Mason334
    11 years ago

    It's hard to earn a women's trust ex specially when you take their virginatey and trust me gfs bffs are bitches try to see if she'll forgive you and if you were drunk ask her to pick you up exspacially call here she was worried something happend to you or you cheated

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  • shade_ilmaendu
    12 years ago

    Much as you might care about her, do you really want to be with someone who controls you like that? If she does the same thing, you're allowed to do it too and she can't complain. End of story.

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  • mybuttholesmellsofshit
    13 years ago

    man, fuck that bitch bro. theres plenty of ass everywhere you look. go find a bitch thats better than her, sounds like it wont be that hard. dont settle for anything less than a dime piece. yuh!

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