Is it normal for my gf to be jealous of every other girl

Ye my GF gets really mad if i talk about other girls she get really jealous if i speak to her friends or show any interest in them what so ever. i have cheated in the past but so has she an i have moved on frm this and even speak to the person she cheated on me with so ye i just wana know if this is normal an an should we even stay together ??

Plus 2 kids involved both ours

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Based on 110 votes (81 yes)
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  • suishokiba

    it's very normal for a girl to get jealous of the females you talk to. especially if you've cheated before... she probably 'does' want to trust you, but is still scared. the kids thing makes it even more complicated. should you stay together? that's up to you, if you love her, yes. if it's too hard for you to be with her, then you don't have to. you may want to stay in a relationship for the kids, but you don't have to if it's too hard for you. as long as you're still a part of their lives, that would be ok if you ask me.

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress

    "i have cheated in the past"

    There you go.

    Normally I'd say she's jsut being overreactive and dramatic but... you've already given her a valid reason to not trust you. So, don't be upset if you haven't earned her full trust back yet.

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  • EAT_IT

    I wish my ladies would get on with eachother because I can never get them to eat in the same room.

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  • Terence_the_viking

    Just tell her i only have Jizz for you

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  • Imposturously_yours

    Ouch. I was about to say that it's, clearly, not normal..

    However you did provide her with all the reasons to be suspicious by cheating. That's also not normal.

    That's what it is -she might be able to forgive you, but you can't ask her to trust you again.

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  • ibreathelectric

    Obviously, if she's jealous of every other girl you even make eye contact with, it's 1. she REALLY REALLY REALLY likes you and 2. you're probably giving her a reason to feel insecure. In a girl's perfect world, she would be the only girl you've ever known. Do everything you can to make her feel that way, which includes avoiding too much contact with other girls and making every effort to show her she's number one in your life.

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    • VioletTrees

      What? I wouldn't want to be the first girl my fiancé ever met. That sounds like it would be marginalising as hell. Women have different opinions and preferences from each other.

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    • davesumba

      or she has severe trust issues because her dad cheated on her mom and ruined their family, and it has nothing to do with you. and/or she has severe insecurities about herself, even though you tell her a million times how much you love how she is and looks and wouldn't change a thing.
      stay away from these types of girls, unless you are up for a project.

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  • NeuroNeptunian

    You have both cheated and you have both been untrustworthy and she knows it. The two of you need to figure some things out because you need to rebuild your trust in each other if you want the relationship to work.

    A lot of girls are very jealous creatures, I am not going to lie. I know women who are with good, trustworthy men who get territorial and trip shit whenever those men even look at another girl and that is a HUGE sign of insecurity. So your girlfriend is probably not just not trusting of you but she probably had some security issues herself.

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    • plum6

      I totally agree, I love the quote: "as soon as you leave the house, your girlfriend is already assuming that you are cheating." which IMO is pretty accurate in a lot of cases.

      Like you said this behaviour is fueled by the fact that the poster fucked-up earlier on and this can be very hard to overcome. The girl does not WANT to be jealous but just has this irrational and overwhelming feeling that she should be. On one hand it does mean that she is really committed to the guy, but on the other hand it usually only puts a strain on the relationship.

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  • davesumba

    get out, get out while you still can. steer clear of overly jealous bitches, it's in the top 10 things to look out for in relationships that are bound to fail.

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  • cupcake_wants

    Tell her u need more bjs to avoid being distracted by other poo-tang

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  • Maykittens

    If you have cheated I really don't blame her for getting mad anytime you speak to a girl. You did it to yourself. Maybe in your next reltionship you'll make the choice to be trustworthy.

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  • disthing

    A certain degree of jealousy is normal, and that jealousy is likely to seem all the more warranted given both of your infidelity, but there's obviously a line between what is reasonable and what is unreasonable.

    Clearly the relationship has lost trust. Perhaps it's salvageable, only you two know that. What I would say is it isn't healthy for either party to be constantly suspicious or feeling 'under threat', nor constantly under suspicion or on a short leash. It's also not good for children to be around such jealousy and untrustworthiness.

    Good luck to both of you and your children :)

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  • holly123holly

    everyone gets jealous she is probly still having trust issues just make sure u give her all ur attention around other females its ok to talk but make sure ur not leaving her out ever and compliment her more tell her shes ur one and only and there is no one prittyer than her make sure the passion is always there be extra nice help out more

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  • hootiemomma

    Just curious, who cheated first? I'm guessing most likely you did. She probably did it to get revenge. You both need to communicate and decide together if the relationship if reparable or not. Once trust is broken, it can be almost impossible to really fix it.

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