Is it normal for my friends not to talk to me for months?

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For most of my childhood I didn't have many friends and also throughout my high school career. I've been out of school for nearly 2 years and the friends I had at school seem so distant from me now because they have gone to college but that doesn't seem like such a monumental reason to not stay in touch? They only seem to really contact or talk to me if I bump into them around my city.

My 21st is coming up soon and I literally have no friends to invite because they don't talk to me anymore and I think it would be really awkward to suddenly invite those people to my 21st (to make matters worse my parents are inviting my whole family to the house that day and now that I am friendless it will be extremely embarassing for me). I don't think I did anything wrong (I mean I am not weird or a bad person). I literally ALWAYS have to contact them and maintain the friendship, I literally can't go out with a group of mates anymore because I feel like a loner going to places by myself.

Does anyone else have this problem? Is trying to push for friendships worth it if others aren't trying?

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  • hokisgurl
    12 years ago

    Omgsh that's soo me. I'm a loner. Theonly people I associate is my family these days no one wants to hang out I have to initiate It sucks being without girlfriends

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  • Shift
    12 years ago

    Easier said than done, it just sounds a bit fishy that they are just not contacting me anymore. I mean they constantly post pics of them and others at clubs and whatever in clubs and going out, not that i care anymore but it would just be nice have some clarification from them once in a while on whats the deal in the friendship. If they don't want to hang out with me thats cool but its not right to string along a person you know?

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  • Shift
    12 years ago

    I guess you're right, it might be good to get everyone together and have a reunion hey. I just hope people rock up. Thanks man!

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    Some people are just living in the moment, so if they haven't heard from you they forget to invite you. I don't think there is any malice intended. You should be the sociable one. I often have to contact the girls, they forget how long it's been since they've been out without their bf's - not good!

    Invite everyone and anyone you know to your 21st coz there's nothing worse than a half empty club. It could also be used as a reunion for all the school friends to meet up again, or any other group you belonged to!

    When I got married, the hall only held 300 people so we had 300 tickets printed. We assumed that half wouldn't turn up, but we ended up with over 600 people and I couldn't get to the dance floor. It didn't help that we were writing admit 6, or 10 on the back of each ticket. We told everyone to bring as many friends as they wanted, and the more the merrier. That was 22 years ago, we had the best day and the people of the town still talk about it :o)

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    12 years ago

    I think the problem is... you're trying to relate to people who have moved on to experiences you are not sharing. And it may be hard to find common interests you still share at that point.

    I would suggest trying to develop interests that you can share with others. That way you can find new friends with whom you still share common interests with.

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