Is it normal for my friend to constantly try and change how i appear?

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I have a friend at school. He is a guy and I am a girl. Although I don't know if that's relevant to this question?? Anyways, if I ever change my hair, do something new with my appearance, he will always judge me and tell me that there is something wrong with it and tell me to change it. He has tried to change many things about me. I sometimes text "hahahaha" instead of "lol" and then he tells me that I need to text like a normal person and text "lol." He also tried to change the way I hold a pencil. I don't hold a pencil the way that most people do, but it doesn't affect the neatness of my handwriting at all. He called me a dumbass and showed me how I should hold a pencil. Today he told me that my hairstyle did not look good at all on me and that I should change it, but when others wear the same style that I was wearing, he never told them to change it. I want to be myself. I feel like shit and that I am not good enough. I don't know what to do. Everything I do, I am being judged and called a retard or a dumbass by him. My self esteem is already low enough, and now it is getting lower. Please tell me. Is this normal for him to do this to me.

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  • Nickvey
    6 years ago

    you can pick your friends you can pick your nose, you can't pick your friend's nose.
    this fucker is picking your nose.

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  • CDmale4fem
    6 years ago

    He sounds like a fuckin control freak, that if he was a "friend" of mine, I would have kicked his judgmental ass, told him to STFU AND never come around me again. He wants to old you and have you appeal to all he is in love with, (besides himself). Next time you see him ask if he wants to follow you to the bathroom and he can try and tell you that you are not wiping your ass proper according to his worldly experiences. I honestly would NOT be able to be friends with an assholes like that. You mention low self esteem. Being around him -its no wonder. Negativity breeds negativity. Surround yourself with positive aura, influences, attitudes, vibes, etc. When you do this remember to remember to like yourself. (Yes that was meant how it looks). You dont mention much else. I wonder your age, and are you young enough to know there is always a brighter day ahead. The more you stay around people that talk to you like that, after awhile you start to feel that way and then you might even start to believe it. Tell him to go away, hold your head up, hold your pencil HOWEVER you want and what works for you. You could ask him about how he does things like going pee, or getting dressed. Tell him he's not doing it right. That he needs to change how he does it. Someone who is a REALTRUE friend will accept, like, or love you just as you are. They WILL NOT try to change you. Good luck.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      Thank you for taking the time to answer my question, and putting lots of thought into your answer. I definitely needed some advice about this whole situation. I will think about this paragraph that you wrote and put more consideration into my mental and physical health that this boy has damaged. And I will keep this paragraph in my mind to aid myself in deciding what benefits me and my confidence, although it probably won't be as easy as it sounds for me. I am now definitely thinking of ending my "friendship" with this boy. Again, thank you so so much for this, I truly appreciate it.

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  • RoseIsabella
    6 years ago

    Why are you friends with this stupid guy? Have you ever thought of just punching him in the face? I'm not saying to punch him, but have you ever thought about it?

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