Is it normal for my friend to be so upset over this?

My best friend is easily one of the World's biggest sweethearts. He's always putting everyone else before him and doing things for others and when he gets feelings, he pursues them relentlessly. He loves somebody HARD (and no, not like THAT lol), to the point where its damn near insanity and never gives it up. He recently reconnected with an elementary school best friend and wanted to introduce him to his friends, me included. Theres this girl that he likes a lot, Rachel (I'm gonna change the name) and the minute that she and his friend saw each other, it was like there was never anybody else. Those two are crazy about each other, and its seriously eating him up. He doesn't sleep at night, hardly eats, and when he looks at you, its like he's looking straight through you. His friend, being the nice guy that he is, knows about his feelings, so he says he's going to back off. But of course the attraction is still there between those two. My friend told me that its getting to the point now where he's the third wheel and he's the one who introduced them! Its really taking a toll on him and he really cares about this girl...maybe a little bit too much? I know, its a confusing situation, but please, try to help if you can.

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  • joybird

    Rachel can't help who she falls for ~ and if it's his friend, I'm sorry but ....

    I know he adores her but maybe he could be happy being known as the person who brought the two love-birds together. Maybe one of them could introduce him to one of their other friends.

    He will never stop their feelings, and if he doesn't back down he's likely to lose his two friends and they'll get together anyway :o(

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    • UnwrittenPoet94

      I think so too. Its really sad (and not gonna lie, slightly annoying) to see him getting this upset over it. If its gonna happen with that girl and his friend, then its just gonna happen. He needs to let it go. Enough is enough. Thank you for your help. I'm thinking about telling him this myself, but I don't wanna hurt his feelings.

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      • Captain_Kegstand

        I introduced one of my good friends to the girl I was all about in college, and those two fell in love. It was horrible for me at first until I realized how good they where together and learned to be happy with it. I recently was in their wedding (which was a blast) and am engaged myself to somebody else now! It sucks but time heals all wounds.

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        • UnwrittenPoet94

          Aww! That is so sweet! See, thats something that he needs to hear to know he can move on and be happy! Congratulations!

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          • Captain_Kegstand

            Thank you!

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  • Poor guy. He bought in to the whole idea that females only like nice guys.

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  • robbieforgotpw

    I live in a van down by the river

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  • NeuroNeptunian

    I don't get it. Why don't they just like... date or something?

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    • UnwrittenPoet94

      Who, my friend and 'Rachel'? Because she thinks of him as a brother and shes told him that, but he simply refuses to see it. Its getting to the point now where its starting to scare me. He's turning into a completely different person.

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  • Just_feed_me_Troll_Meat

    I'm a 22 y.o man. I'm single. I've always been. I got an online relationship with who lives in another country. Actually she still thinks that we have something serious. But i do not believe in it any longer. I never had a real relationship, though i know maybe i'll never have. When she see me in real, she'll not like me at all. Plus i won't like her probably. While i'm being suffered from lots of troubles and hard work, is there any possibility to make me comprehend truly that she's having fun outside and partying or playing with guys? Is there any explanation except that she's trying to fulfill her life as to be seen so jelly or so busy with others and not thinking of me? Hell that is the fact. She wants to get a social life where i am not involved. Because i'm an online thingie (in her mind).

    I am regretting too much that i cared for such a girl like her. She never belonged to me while i was struggling with hard work, to make my dreams come true. I saved my money. Now i can go there. But i'm so reluctant to do it.

    I have tried to break up with her maybe 10 times or more. All the time i felt so sad and couldn't manage to get rid of her. But this time, i'll not say anything. Anything at all. I'll just shut my mouth up.

    By the time i ain't gonna dump myself into drugs or such things to make me feel relieve. Maybe i should just look for a girl in my type and also in my country. Then i can feel NO SADNESS of her. Hope to find someone in my country soon.

    To find a girl who doesn't like parties or other guys is that difficult? Hell i don't think so. I'll find that girl. Though i failed in my first experience, i'll find my soul mate who is still waiting for me.

    I'm so hopeful to get my new girl. someday...

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