Is it normal for my friend to be so mad at me?

So, my best friend told me her crush, and asked me to find out if he likes her. This is pretty usual, I mean she's my best friend, so I would doing anything for her. I had one class with him, so I brought up the subject one day of who he likes. We weren't really good friends at the time, so he didn't tell me. So everyday I just started talking to him, trying to get close to him so he would finally tell me. We talked for about 3 weeks and then I brought up the subject again. He just said he didn't like anyone. So I told her that he didn't like anyone, and she said "Ok, you can stop talking to him now." But the thing was, I didn't want to stop talking to him! He had become a really good friend. He had given me his number, so we texted almost everyday. He started talking to me non-stop in class. And...I started to like him too. And I felt terrible about it. So, thinking it was the right thing to do, I told my best friend. But I made it very clear that I wouldn't go out with him or anything! I just wanted her to know, so I didn't feel so bad about it; I just couldn't control my feelings. And now she's so mad at me, and I've apologized a million times! She won't respond to my texts, talk to me in the halls, nothing. And now she's even spreading mean rumors about me! I don't understand why's she's getting so mad just because I have a little crush on him. It's not like I'm dating him! I just want my best friend back. Is it normal that's she's getting this mad over something stupid like this? If so, should I just forget about her and stop being her friend? Please comment and tell me what you think!

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  • Totally normal for a school girl. I don't miss those days one iota!

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  • Wow, rumors?

    If your "best friend" is spreading rumors about you then that's crossing the line.

    Me and my best friend like the same guy, and we both know it. We both flirt with him. I've admitted if he asks me out that I'm saying yes, and if he asks her out she's saying yes. And were okay with that. If my best friend were to date him, even though I'd be jealous, I'd also be happy for her. Were tight like that, and we don't ever wanna let a guy ruin our friendship. Sure, if I was your bff in this situation I would be a little ticked too, but I wouldn't ignore you or spread rumors. I'd learn to accecpt it and move on. Girls share water, hair brushes, deodorant, food, clothes, why not share a crush? ;) I hope everything works out for you, from one teen to another! :)

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  • HS problems are so funny, if only because they are so temporary and meaningless.

    Wait til you get the real world, and I mean the really really world, not college, which isnt anywhere close to it.

    It Sucks !

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  • Kevin034m

    Its school drama, girls being girls.

    IThinkTooMuch86 is absolutely right, you didnt do anything wrong. if she really wanted to get with this guy she shoulda approached him herself. Its not your fault that she was too chicken to go up to the guy herself and to find out. Just let her figure it out and if it makes you feel better write her a letter(explaining everything just dont fault her for not going in herself, that will offend her) and drop it off at her desk. She can ignore it all she wants but shes gonna wanna read what you have to say. cause thats just how curious humans are.

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  • IThinkTooMuch86

    Sounds like typical school drama to me. I wouldn't worry too much about it, you can't control your emotions. You've done nothing wrong, and the fact that you feel bad about this whole thing shows you're a good person. Don't stress it, you'll be friends again soon.

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  • joybird

    Sorry but you committed a cardinal sin!
    You don't fancy your friend's crush if you still want to keep her as a friend.

    You chose him and so she chose to get rid of you!

    She doesn't trust you any more and so you may as well go out with him, coz I'd say you've pretty much isolated yourself from other girls trusting you too.

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