Is it normal for my friend's boyfriend to keep touching me?

I've known this guy for a while now, but me and my friends just recently started hanging out with him and his friends, including his girlfriend. I would consider his girlfriend my "friend" I guess, but we don't ever talk besides when all of us are hanging out, and even when we do talk it's not that much. But she's a nice girl. Anyway, I REALLY like this guy, even though I've tried so long to deny it because his girl is so nice and we're "friends." But I can't deny it anymore, I like him, plain and simple.


I am not the type of girl who would EVER try and break up a relationship for my own benefit, though, so I'm careful never to show any signs that I like him, especially in front of his girl. But here's the thing: they've been on the verge of breaking up for a while now, and I have a feeling it is going to happen pretty soon because they can't be in the same room for five seconds together without getting into a fight. So lately, he's been hanging out with us without her.

And whenever she's not around (and even when she is!), I can't help but notice that he is always looking at me. Espeically when he's talking, whether it's to me or someone else, he's ALWAYS making eye contact with me. Neither of us ever really breaks it. It can be kind of intense, haha.

And the thing that gets me most is, he will make ANY excuse to be near me and touch me. He always sits or stands next to me, brushes against me, puts his hand on my arm when he's talking to me and leaves it there...the other night we were teasing each other while playing Wii and he kept touching my legs...it goes on and on.

The craziest thing was last night, my one friend was sitting to the left of me, and Colin (the guy I like) was sitting to my right. My friend on the left dropped something, and Colin felt the need to pick it up. My legs were stretched out on the table in front of us, so Colin leaned his entire body onto my legs and kind of smacked my thigh a few times before full on grabbing it while he was leaning over trying to pick the thing up. I didn't push him off because it was exciting and felt good to have him all over me like that, but I kind of freaked out because that doesn't seem normal!

Is it normal for Colin to be acting like this with me? Could it be that he's just a really touchy feely person? (Even though I definitely don't see him acting like this with anyone else...) I don't know what to do/think anymore. All I know is that I get really excited every time he touches me. Am I over-analyzing his actions because I like him already? Or is there a chance that he likes me too, even though he has a girlfriend? Help!!

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Comments ( 18 )
  • Psychosocial

    If the guy has a girlfriend and he's groping you, then he's a friggn slimeball and will undoubtedly grope other chicks while you are banging him, too. If that doesn't bother you, then go for it after he breaks up.

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  • CountryRoads

    It could be your hopes projecting onto him.
    Or, he could be flirting because he knows you're super creeping on him.
    Either way, unless he's single, he doesn't want you fully (or else he'd ditch the other girl and be with you...common sense)
    It doesn't matter if they're "almost" breaking up or not, unless they ARE broken up, he shouldn't be doing that to you.
    Just wait it out, if he likes you, he'll come to you.

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  • gripleg

    Ahhh this is crazy! I feel guilty that I hope he likes me, which it seems like he does...his gf is so nice. Oh well...what I want is important too :D

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    • chewy

      are you the writer of this?

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  • SexFreak911

    its not normal gurl he likes you

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  • wohooo

    its normal becuase a lot of persons touch me and i fell like for me is normal and seriously i think that you should try to move away or something

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  • mlbryan44

    I think you should suck his cock!

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  • Blackwargreymon

    Depends on your social situation.

    We do that too, damn I even put my hands under this other girls skirt to check her underwear and my gf was next to me and fine with it. We're all huggable touchable, sexual open people, so we're always touching eachother, but don't want to date eachother. So: normal!

    If you're hanging out with normal people I would say: not very normal, you don't have to create his boundaries, but his intentions can be dubieus!

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  • joelsmo

    it is obvious he thinks you are an easy lay, it sounds like that may be true.

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  • HopefullyNormal?

    Keep your boundaries up. Intentionally ask him how his girlfriend's going and stuff just to remind him that he is in a relationship. If you act like nothing's going on, then he'll be able to get away with flirting and stuff and the whole thing will just drag on and you desserve better. I liked a guy who had a girlfriend and I couldn't help but feel he liked me back but I didn't flirt and neither did he really out of respect. A week later he had broken up with her and contacted me. I think that's the way it should be. This guy Colin might enjoy the power of having two girls wanting him, and though it sounds like he likes you, he might not respect you enough and it sounds like you need to remind him you deserve it by showing that you know he has a girlfriend and holding out on him with the flirting and long eye-contacts

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  • I think you may be perceiving something that isn't actually happening because you're attracted to him. You didn't say if you had ever been alone with him. Have you? Did he act any differently? If you are all friends you should be able to talk to him about it.

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  • knoshann

    Be careful with this guy. It seems as if he is a little too casual with things and doesn't value commitment or respect you. I mean he is still dating someone and he assumes you don't care. He does seem interested though so give it time and be sure you aren't just a rebound.

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  • aduusw

    I say go for it... After they break up of course.

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  • chewy

    yeap i agree with sex freak hey if the writer of the story would answer to this would be nice hey do you like it when he touches your legs? also are you cute or hot?

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    • gripleg

      yes I like it and uhhh I think so? I feel awkward answering this question...

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      • chewy

        dont feel awkard about it its fine i was just curious to know thats all.

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  • DannyKanes

    Just make sure he's not using you as a rebound

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  • TheJackel

    Physical contact in close range is usually a strong indicator Someones attracted to you. But I don't know what your gonna do about but w.e it is good luck :)

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