Is it normal for my fiance to still wear his ex wife's wedding ring?

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My partner and I have been together for 4 years and have been engaged for the last few months. He still wears his ex wife's wedding ring on the other hand and he says it's out of habit and it means nothing. He did ask me if it bothered me or not, but in my opinion...if he needed to ask me that then there was no point in saying yes. Because he would then remove it just to please me and not because he saw anything wrong with wearing it.

So I'm interested in what other people think...is it normal that he still wears his ex wife's wedding ring even though it means nothing to him?

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    11 years ago

    it depends... is she still alive?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      Lol...yes she is actually, very much so.

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  • Andrew256
    11 years ago

    Hello, red flag.

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  • wistfulmaiden
    9 years ago

    If it bothers you, tell him. Most men don't take subtle hints. Idk why he still wears it but if youre going to be together, him wearing YOUR ring can only be a step in the right direction.

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  • Rolie26
    11 years ago

    He must still have feelings for her or something!

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  • sprite
    11 years ago

    This sounds like a case of someone just not thinking about their own behaviour. It doesn't sound like he means anything, just no real awareness of whats respectful or appropriate. Does he do that with other stuff? I mean in not thinking about how his behaviour might feel to you?

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  • moomus
    11 years ago

    Why would he want to wear it? Not normal....

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  • joybird
    11 years ago

    It sounds as though he just wants to wear jewellery when he should be displaying his wealth on his wife (you).

    I'm married more than 20 years and neither of us wear wedding rings - no need to.

    Tell him straight to take it off, he's pathetic - seriously reconsider marrying this fool if you can't speak plainly to him.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      I'm not an ornament for him to hang his wealth on, I'm his partner. Neither am I shallow enough to read more into this than is there. I certainly would not consider this serious enough to threaten our relationship, it's only a ring and genuinely has no emotional attachment for him.

      I was only interested in peoples views, some (obviously yourself included) feel strongly about it, others not so much. Yes I would like him to remove it as somewhere along the line it was a symbol of his love for his ex wife. However it needs to be something he does because he sees that...not because I tell him its so. But in the end, it's not that important.

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  • Jweezee
    11 years ago

    It's odd in my opinion. I wouldn't feel right about it if a chick i was going to marry still wore hers. And saying he does it out of habit is a lame ass excuse. It's not like drinking coffee in the morning or taking the same route to work, an action reinforces a habit. It's either he takes it off and puts it away or he wears it. There is no habit when it just thoughtlessly sits on his finger all the time. He should know he shouldn't be wearing his exes ring when he's engaged. There may be an innocent reason, he may like the way it looks or he's uses it as a reminder after his divorce to be a better person. Hell, I don't know, but i'd damn sure be finding out, and an excuse of a "habit" wouldn't cut it with me.

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  • wigsplitz
    11 years ago

    I've known a couple people who did this, but they were women. So I guess, it's not common but it's something that some people do. Is he going to take it off when you two get married? If not then that's a bit weird.

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