Is it normal for my family to hate my bf this much?
So here's the background of the situation...
First off, I am 18 years old and my boyfriend is 20. Me and my brother currently live with my grandparents (mom's parents) and my parents live with my uncle (300 miles away). My aunt also lives here with my grandparents, along with her family.
So, my family seems to hate my boyfriend.. even though, he's never given them a reason to hate him. He is completely respectful and sweet. And yet, they feel the need to remind him of his past, in which he's trying to forget, and that's why they hate him..
A few years ago, he was into drugs and partying, and alcohol, and all kinds of stuff (nothing sexual tho.. he had a conscience when it came to that).. but when he started hanging out with me after knowing each other for 3 years but never having any kind of friendship, he quit. Completely quit. Went through the worst time with the aftermath of quitting because he wanted to be with me. He was completely clean of everything (minus chewing, but he's working on that now..) when he asked me to be his girlfriend. He made that his goal. And I find that to be very noble and a symbol of genuine love.
So, at first, they were "okay" with him.. then he came over to my house and they said he was really quiet... then the second time he came over, they said we were being rude (but the only reason we (meaning me) would have been "rude" is because my aunts son, who is 4, and her daughter, who is 8, were coming into the room and staring at us.. then they would throw toys at us cuz they thought it was funny, and they were just being really obnoxious.. so I ended up getting up and grabbing both of them and taking them into the kitchen and asking my aunt to keep them away from us.. so.. they considered that rude) Just recently, he came over to my house after church, and usually we watch a movie on my brothers XBox.. but we didn't have it that day because my cousin borrowed it.. so we basically just sat and talked and goofed around.. For about an hour and a half, we laid on the couch and were just talking and being silly, and I was laying on his chest.. then my grandpa walked in and yelled at us.. so we stopped. Next day, rumors were spread throughout the church that we were having sex... which we weren't..
But also.. My grandma and aunt both feel the need to talk about my relationship as if it won't last. They're always like, "Well, when you guys break up.. you're gonna be hurt.." "You're gonna find someone better and when you do..." and "If, for some reason, you marry him.." I mean, it's like they have no faith in my relationship whatsoever.. My grandma has even said that he's not good enough for me.. which hurt his feelings and he keeps bringing it up (he has a low self esteem)
I just don't see how my family could possibly hate him so much for the things he's done in the past when they can't even see that in the present, he makes me the happiest girl alive. I hate my life away from him. Every time we're away, I want to kill myself. I feel like I have no purpose.. I hate my family because they judge me and my boyfriend and they support nothing of mine.. and yet, I'm stuck with them.. But when I'm with him, none of my worries matter. I can completely forget them for the day when I'm with him.. And they don't see that.. Nobody sees how happy he makes me.. so why do they hate that we're together?
I dunno.. this just bugs me...
Kudos if you actually read this whole thing..