Is it normal for my ex to text me so often?

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Is it normal that my ex boyfriend has texted me at least once a day for three years since i last saw him? My ex boyfriend and i were close in our relationship and in our friendship, but when i moved away and told him i wasn't comfortable with a "long distance" relationship, He's texted me everyday since then. The worst thing is, he acts like we are still together telling me "He loves me." and "He thought i was the one." I feel awful not being able to be with him, but i just cant handle long distance relationships. However, i don't want to ignore his texts because i know how much that would hurt him.

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  • Holzman_67
    10 years ago

    putting the ex in text

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  • disthing
    10 years ago

    It's good to be able to maintain a healthy friendship with an ex.

    However, when that friendship is based upon unreciprocated love for one of the parties, it's a terrible idea.

    It's drawing out the process of inevitable heartbreak; for him when he realises you'll never be with him romantically, for you when you have to lose a good friend.

    You need to let him down as gently but definitively as possible. You also need to be prepared for him deceiving or misleading you into believing he has 'moved on', so he can stay in contact with you in the hopes of making you fall back in love with him.

    Maybe in a year or so, the proposition of a balanced, purely platonic friendship is a more realistic one. But give him a chance to get over you first. Little to no contact, no encouragement, don't respond positively to compliments he pays you, don't give him any indication you and he could be more than good friends. Stay consistent and reaffirm your position - that you're sorry but you're not interested.

    It might be hard and it might seem cruel, but you're delaying something which could be worse further down the line.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    That sounds normal for someone who is in love with you. He doesn't want to let you go.

    Is it making you uncomfortable, though? Because it sounds like it is. You should figure out what you are comfortable with and then let him know exactly what you want from him.

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  • Avant-Garde
    10 years ago

    Sounds like he still has feelings for you. If you want it to stop, be frank with him.

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  • pixie_dust
    10 years ago

    tell him the only way it would work is it he moved up to where you are and if he doesn't to quit texting you

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  • Gspyder
    10 years ago

    No, and its hindering him from moving on.

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  • ygrowup
    10 years ago

    It is somewhat normal for someone to hold on to something so special, even if its only a little communication by text message. You must be unique, for he has found no one to fill your void. This often grows into something else, that can be treasured almost as much as love, don't be to hasty in pushing it away. Good luck with your choices

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