Is it normal for my daughter to hate a mother that she always loved?

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My daughter and I where very close ,even at 13 she would carry my picture and we would have to get her at night she wont stay away from me . She always said I was the best mother in the world .I new normally she would pull away as she grew but in one day she hated me .7 years I have cried .I have tried everything ,She sounds like her dad. who when I got sick with ms began to verbally abuse me .Now she covers her face when she walks by me .I try to talk .she always says I have to go or I don't need a mom any more .M y heart is breaking .I don't know what I did .she love daddy ,she went off to college never calling me nor answering my calls ,but says Dad is the love of her life they laugh at me .I miss her .my heart hurts i try to tell her how much i miss her she never answers me I'm so lost without my girl .Is this normal to hate a mom that has never done anything ,I got sick tough with MS she sounds like her dad.Her brother say forget her shes a bitch .They don't under stand you cant stop loving a child . Is this normal to just one day love your mom then sop and hate her and say I don't need or what a sick mother?

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    Teens tend to consider every adult to be the stupidest idiots on the planet, especially their parents. There isn't a damn thing you can do, except be patient and wait until this passes.
    If life with her gets intolerable for you, protect yourself and remember, this is nothing you've done wrong and there is no way for you to change this. Send her packing, rather than live as abused and hated parent. If she thinks she's so fucking smart and wonderful, then see how well she manages her life on her own. Good luck, mom.

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  • Avant-Garde
    9 years ago

    Try family therapy.

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  • alextsang08
    9 years ago

    Puberty

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    9 years ago

    My theory is that her Dad talked shit about you. It's possible that she became resentful of the fact that your MS likely caused you to become dependent on others. Her Dad may have redirected her resentment of your condition to resentment of you.

    I have an Aunt who is very dependent and whiny. She, too, is chronically I'll. After a while, all of her pleas and demands burned me out. It wasn't so much that I was troubled by the burden of having to pull her weight around the house, but that she is a hoarder and increased the weight I had to pull while pulling little of her own. When she IS well, she IS out bringing home more crap to fill the house with or tending to her hobbies rather than using her active time trying to pull her own weight and take care of her responsibilities. Not only that, but she complains so much about people who have tried to help her but have also burnt out. She is an emotional vampire but if it weren't for her irresponsibility and her irrational and emotional tendencies, we would still be close.

    A huge part of her problem is that she believes she does no wrong by others or hardly any. She refuses to acknowledge the difficulty she has caused us and give us credit for what we have to do in her stead.

    Please use my story to gain some perspective on the situation. I am not saying that you're like my Aunt, but when you tend to become completely dependent on others, you run the risk of crossing that fine line between them helping shoulder your burden and them having to take on your responsibilities along with theirs and no matter how much you love someone, there's only so much one person can do.

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