Is it normal for my daughter to go through these changes so young?

shouldn't you remember what is was like to be her age, I mean it wasn't that long ago

*Reads first line

*braces self for incest post

*reads the rest

*is relieved it's just a regular creepy parent post

All of you that said this isn't a reflection of society are very ignorant and naive. Are you kidding me? Kids are being forced to mature younger and younger due to media influences. Although this is definitely not the worse thing your daughter can do, and not even necessarily a terrible thing for her to do, it is definitely a reflection of society. Come on people, you are blind.

Yes, that's normal.

Yep next thing you know they will be selling coffee at coffee shops.

I think it's normal for kids to be interested in somewhat sexual things at any age. It's completely natural. I don't think it's right to look at those thoughts as unhealthy or immoral, or the product of some sort of broken society. These are natural thoughts. You can't hold on to children forever, and even if you stop them wearing certain things and talking to certain people that won't stop them wanting to. If they want to, I think it's better to let them learn about relationships on their own terms and find their own boundaries.

On average, girls hit puberty at 10 or 11 years old.

I'm not sure if I should nitpick about irrelevant information in this or not. I guess I won't. You seem freaked out enough by puberty.

"and this past year so many things are changing with her."

This is called puberty. She should start her period soon, as well as grow breasts. She might start wearing a bra, and might even want some more privacy so she can do "teen" things in her room. She may or may not have bodily functions that may or may not show up in her undergarments. She might also develop sweat glands, and may start needing to use deodorant. She might also shave unwanted hair, and take more of an interest in her outward appearance, and emotions of others. And to top that all off, she might find the opposite sex starting to be attractive, or even "exploring feelings" with her friends/boys. Congratulations, you have an adolescent human.

"each day now she does her own make up"

So you put make-up on her for the first years of her life? Was she not pretty enough for your tastes? No child should need make-up. Hell, i feel 85% of adults don't even need it, unless they are doing things (plays, acting, television) where features need to be accented. You created this by putting make-up on her. So now you deal with the consequences of her feeling she needs to do her own.

"picks her own outfits, she has even learned how to shave!"

Don't most kids pick their own outfits? I remember trying on clothes when I was young, so I don't see why this is a problem. And yes, she shaves. Most girls in today's american society start shaving between 10 and 12. Some shave the pubic region. some legs. some underarms. some their whole body. This is her preference and is part of growing up. I started shaving my pubic region when I was 14 and started growing the hair. I didn't like it. It wasn't for cosmetic reasons, I just didn't like touching it.

"Girls that age are a little to young to be wearing thongs"

"You must remember, they are glue, everything you say can and will be used against you" Parenting secret tip 1. And I don't even have kids. You own the thong, so she has seen (trust me, she sees more of you than you can ever imagine) you wearing it, so she thinks its ok. But here is the real super kicker to this whole thing. A thong is a piece of clothing. A nun's habit is a piece of clothing. Nudists don't wear clothing. It really doesn't matter what the item is (or lack thereof), what matters is the way she may/ may not respect herself with it. I'm going to raise my family as nudists, because clothes as a status symbol, or for sexual reasons is completely absurd. Its fabric. Period. The negative connotations associated with certain items is strictly based on how the item is viewed. Maybe she likes the openness. Maybe she feels she's more flexible in it. And yes, maybe she really is using it for sexual reasons. But nudity and clothing ARE NOT sexual. Sex is Sex. Naked is not. Or do you hump the shower every time you clean yourself?

Things all girls need to be taught. 1. Respect themselves. They are special, unique, and it doesn't matter what they show on the outside. What matters is inside. 2. Respect elders, and know that adults are people, and people make mistakes. 3. Never take shit from anyone, especially any man. He starts doing something she doesn't like, she ends it as fast as she can, with as much force as necessary. 4. Learn from mistakes. 5. Accept everyone equally. 6. Stick with what you enjoy doing. 7. No matter what, there will be someone there to love them. (parent, friend, grandparent etc.)8. Never be afraid to ask, discover, explore. and 9. Sex is special, sex feels good. Learn how to be responsible with it, and other alternatives to it. Do not use it to get power, money, or respect. Use it to connect with someone, and to procreate.

At least those are the things I plan on teaching my kids.

She's a normal teen that wants boy's attention, and I wouldn't be surprised to know she drinks. Teens are more an more likely to have sex earlier / start drinking earlier / smoke earlier....
She's just growing up

I'm a teenager now and it's definitely normal.

It may be normal, but you should probably make sure she isn't getting ahead of her emotional age. Make up on a 13 year old would not be acceptable to me as a parent. No more than short skirts and a bare midriff at that age.
You two need to have a talk and you should probably set some boundaries before she get's out of control and gets into things she won't be able to handle.
I was a single parent to 2 girls, 11 years apart. It was amazing how the younger one felt that if it was OK for her sister, then it should be OK for her.

It's very normal, nothing to worry about. She's growing up and I think you should encourage her in that, put her in the right direction. Don't try to hold her back, it doesn't work and you make her and yourself unhappy by trying to do that.

I think you can be the most awesome mom for her by being open about everything. So are my parents with me and eventough I'm a teenager and most teenagers hate their parents I think my parents are awesome. For example, I had my first boyfriend when I was 12 and as I told my parents they approved and said I need to bring him over so they could meet him. Also my dad gave me a pack of condoms and instructed me how to use it in case we wanted to do it. We didn't do it until a year later, but I was prepared anyway.

Most of what you described is normal but I agree with you 100% about the thong underwear being inappropriate.

It is normal. I started putting my mom's make-ups when i was lyk 10 but i was too shy to walk wearing thm outdoors. Girls often act differently when becoming teens.

This seems completely normal. I am not a parent but a lot of people say that kids are the most difficult once they reach the teens.