Is it normal for my dad to cheat on my mom and us be okay with it?

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Every single time we visit our hometown in Philippines, my dad always cheats. My mom always finds out about it. So he's cheated on my mom about 3-4 times.

But it doesn't really make a big difference in our lives. My dad says in the end he comes home to us. My mom says they stay together for me and my sister. Honestly though, my mom doesn't even bat an eyelash at it. Like, "Oh your dad's out cheating again." It's nothing.

So since I've been brought up with cheating being a regular thing somewhat, I find it odd for some couples who've been together for a long time to break up after someone cheats once.

Like I don't see what the big deal is.
Is that normal? Or is cheating once really that big enough to break an otherwise normal, happy couple?

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Based on 67 votes (13 yes)
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Comments ( 9 )
  • beneficialpest
    13 years ago

    Sounds like a good way for your Dad to give your Mom a deadly disease! What if he comes home with HIV or Herpes or any number of other STD's? Not only is he risking his own life he is risking your mother's. Your father sounds very disrespectful. Trust me your Mom is not okay with it she just doesn't know how to handle it. She is afraid to leave your father. So she acts like it's normal. I'm sorry for you kiddo. That is not normal at all. Your father sounds like he needs help.

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  • bleach_baby
    13 years ago

    Just because it doesnt affect you doesnt mean it doesnt affect your mum. Who you marry is the most important decision of your life and for your mum to say shes with your dads "for the kids" means hers must be pretty shit. I think its really sad.

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  • Echoes
    13 years ago

    I guess your mom bought her peace of mind by adapting to a one-sided(?) open marriage. Cheating is considered an unforgivable act by the majority of people unless the couple has a mutual understanding or an open relationship arrangement.

    Now you know all the options; faithful, cheater, or in an open relationship, so you can make your own choice regardless of what's been happening in your home.

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  • coolnigga
    12 years ago

    Beat the fuck out him or fucking shoot him up with a gun. Juss kill that nigga!!!

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  • gako
    13 years ago

    Your dad's a man whore.

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  • chicken471bologna
    13 years ago

    No that's not normal you dumb shit! I bet you are going to end up cheating on your wife all the time and think it's okay. Wait until you get a divorce and she takes half you shit!

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  • Mastersash
    13 years ago

    uuh..

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  • ladymantoloveyoulongtime
    13 years ago

    my grandfather was like that and the reason why my grandma stayed with him was because she had no-where else to go. if your mom doesnt care about it then that doesnt mean that its okay. cheating in a marriage just shows extreme disrespect for their partner. does your mum stay because of your living situation? does she stay maybe because she doesnt want to have to work? or does she stay to keep the family together? either way she is EXTREMELY understanding of the situation but chances are she is crying inside.

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  • nocharge
    13 years ago

    Trust is important in a good, lasting relationship. It's the most rewarding life you can live. My in-laws never cheated (yes, I'm sure they died faithful), my parents never cheated (yes, I'm sure, and we just had a party for their 65th anniversary) and my wife and I never cheated on each other. Multiple and random partners may be biologically "normal" but so is killing a sexual rival, a cheating mate or a child that isn't yours. Just read the headlines.

    Then realize that you have a choice.

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