Is it normal for my boyfriend to turn me down?

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I had posted a story that was kind of the same as this but it is still an issue. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost two years and we have a pretty good relationship for the most part. The one issue that we have and have had for our entire relationship is that he is constantly turning me down when it comes to sex or even oral sex. He's either too full, too tired or just not in the mood. I don't get it at all.

At first I used to cry and not speak to him but now I just feel rejected and just feel strange even asking. I try to not let it bother me because I know and have known that he has never been that in to sex... Like the stereo type of all men and wanting it all the time... Not the case here at all. I am a very sexual person and I know sex isn't everything but it is my way of expressing how much I love him. I know that I show it in other ways but im sure that others would agree that that is a great way of showing it.

I don't know what else to do and I don't want him to think that because I'm upset about it because of "him" but yeah... Idk.

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  • Koalaficatioins
    11 years ago

    I am in almost the exact same position. It makes me feel like he's disgusted by me. It makes me wonder if he thinks I'm ugly. He always just brushes me off and never answers my questions when I mention it. And I get what you're saying, with the whole men want it all the time thing. I thought that was true, too. I would say this is not normal.

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  • RW321
    11 years ago

    i would NEVER turn down an offer to lick a girls pussy

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  • iowagirl3
    12 years ago

    Yeah I've mentioned that once and he got really offended. Even tonight when I was leaving for work (I hadn't asked to do anything) he gave me a really long kiss, & expressed how much he loved me and told me to have a good night and to drive safe. How can I be mad about this when he is such a good boyfriend? It makes me feel so bad

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  • ygrowup
    12 years ago

    If a young man looses his desire as you describe, usually means a medical problem, he needs to be checked out by a doctor! Even after a double shift, I have never been to tired for oral sex or more!

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  • iowagirl3
    12 years ago

    He works construction and when he comes home, 9 times out of 10 he eats dinner and then passes out. He claims it's because he's dirty and doesn't want to "give me a stinky wee wee" lol. But, I have been dirty from working out or something and have made it a point to shower just so we can do it.

    He told his best friend who is a mutual friend of him and I that he is past the point of always wanting to have sex and that he wants to get to know me and spend more time with me. I just don't get if he feels that way why he wouldnt want to have sex.

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    • Terence_the_viking
      11 years ago

      Are you sure he's not gay? Maybe he's bumming your mutual friend and doesn't want you to have a pooey wee wee.

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  • Darkoil
    12 years ago

    I once out of 1000s of times turned down my ex girlfriend and god damn thats not a mistake I'm gona make again, i literally never heard the end of it but when she wasn't in the mood then it was fine, fucking double standards. My current girlfriend expects me to perform in seconds without any foreplay and I have to, i literally feel like a human sex slave sometimes.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    It could be that you have really bad timing. It could be that after two years, he's become a lazy lover. It could be that he's run-down or depressed. It could be anything.

    You need to have a really serious talk with him about how this is making you feel. Then you guys need to agree when it is best to have sex for both of you.

    The truth is, you cannot continue on like this or it will doom your relationship.

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