Is it normal for my boyfriend to treat me this way?

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My boyfriend and I have been living together for just over 4 years now. He runs his own company from home, last year I quit my job (was to far away when we moved) and started working for him. I do finance mostly with a load of other things. I also take care of our pets and all of the household chores. I do this so hr has more time to spend with me, but he just uses every minute of the day to sit at his computer and work. He has no interest in anything I have to say, I feel like in a nuisance when I talk to him. Either he thinks what im saying is stupid and naive and tells me so or he just looks at me like im stupid and goes back to working. Sometimes he doesn't even let me finish what im saying and tells me to be quiet he's trying to concentrate. Then turns to watch something I interesting on the tv for a few minutes like I haven't said anything before turning to his computer again.
We hardly ever have sex maybe once every 2 months. Hr never initiates sex, and when I try he falls asleep or seems disinterested. I've tried wearing different things and trying to be sexy for him but nothing seems to work. I feel like his worker not his girlfriend anymore. Is there something wrong with me?

I don't know what to do any more.
Any advise would be appreciated

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    Well, it may not be a wasted 4 years, but it seems like it's near the end. "Can't get no respect" sounds to be what you are saying, right? Are you getting enough out of the relationship to want to continue being his book keeper, maid, cook and whipping boy? I doubt it. Start looking for a job and an apartment and work your way towards independence. This relationship is over, honey, even if neither of you are aware of it yet.

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    • ㅤㅤㅤ
      9 years ago

      Yeah, I'm sorry to say, but this guy's right, OP. You sound kind-hearted, but unfortunately he's just a workaholic. Try telling him how you feel, or maybe even bluntly ask, "Do you even love me anymore?" and that if he doesn't start treating you right you're gone. Good luck.

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  • bubblyblonde1999
    8 years ago

    Tell him if he's going to continue to wear his ass as a hat, you won't have anything to do with him. Just because he has his own company and you work for him doesn't mean he can treat you like shit. In a way, since you do finances, you are a big part of the company. If it weren't for you, the company would be in shambles. Just remember that. And if you try to use that against him and he says that he can have you replaced easily, just blast Irreplaceable by Beyonce as you walk out the door, let him know HE'S easy to replace. You are one in a million and he is just one of many.

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  • modernism
    9 years ago

    One of the worst things a person can do to you is ignore you or act like you're stupid. It shows that you're not "worth" their time and is just another thing to come across. Anyone deserves better, so I'd say to let him know what you're feeling. Like, reallyyy let him know. You don't have to be angry about it, just go up to him calmly and tell him how you feel and what he needs to do in order to change.

    If he disregards you or brings up how "work" is in the way, then he's not worth your time either. Don't stay in a relationship just because you've already come so far or think it's the best you're going to get. There is so much more out there for you - if you are sure that he isn't bringing forth the time for you.

    I'm just taking a long-shot here, but you don't want to one day get married and realize that you should've left a long time ago when it wasn't set in stone. With whatever happens, good luck. :)

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  • gashlover
    9 years ago

    when he comes home smell his dick and see if it's been in another tuna shack

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  • Unimportant
    9 years ago

    Would you be happy if he worked less and therefore made less money, but had more time for you?

    If so, does he know that?

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  • KeepsakeDoll
    9 years ago

    His first priority is work. You'll have to talk it out with him that you're feeling neglected. If he doesn't make an effort after the talk then it's no use anymore.

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