Is it normal for my boyfriend to text other girls?

I think it's normal for you both to have male and female friends and I think it's normal that you should both be allowed to text friends of either gender without the other person getting jealous.

The reality is that what he's doing is making you feel insecure. Not the kind of person you want as a boyfriend, to be honest. I don't know either of you so can't assume he's playing some kind of game. Either way, don't let it get to you. Either ask him not to text girls in your presence (and instead focus his time on you), or ask to meet the girls with him and befriend them/text them yourself. Or, sadly, find a boyfriend who isn't so concerned with knocking your confidence and controlling you.

I disagree with what the people are saying here. It's not your fault this is halpenning, he's not allowing you to talk to other guys (because he says it's different) he's the one who isn't trustworthy. Talk to other guys and see how he likes it.

Not ok. Especially since he says it's different if you do it. That in itself means that he and the girls he texts are not just talking about normal stuff. Don't fall for his bullshit!!

If he knows that him texting other girls upsets you he'd stop if he cared.

Im a guy and i would do the same so jeres the truth...
he is trying to either make you jealous and likes the fact that YOU know hes talking to other girls.
or hes just being a player and wants to keep flirting with other girls just to have a feeling of being a player.
Trust me i did this and its an unexplainable feeling when you text other girls while in a relationship it just makes you feel better about yourself. But sadly oir relationship ended this way so goodluck i dont really know the solution, only the reason why he does this.

dump his ass. he has no respect for you at all. do these other girls even know that he has a girlfriend? i would think not otherwise they wouldnt keep chatting with him.

He is an asshole lol ! U should txt other guys and hang out with them so he no how that feels .

He needs to knock that shit off.

If he loved you he would stop. If he can't understand, bail on his ass. Cut him loose.

If you've actually met these girls and know that there isn't anything else aside from friendship, then you have nothing to worry about. BUT---- with what he's saying, trying to double-standard you about txting other guys..that's bullshit.

If it doesn't make you comfortable and you've already explained this to him, he needs to stop doing what he's doing OUT OF COMMON COURTESY, otherwise, what's the point in being in a relationship with someone if you're not going to stop or change something that makes your significant other uncomfortable?

Either he's an idiot, he's trying to make you jealous, or he just doesn't care.

i agrre you need to trust him more. Or check them if you get a chance like eagle said, if you are still woried. I know a lot of guys that have girls that are just good friends.

sounds like he likes to flirt with other girls. you should get yourself a text buddy and flirt with him and see how your boyfriend likes it. but if he TRULY respected you, whether they were innocent texts or not, he should stop it. personally, i wouldnt put up with those kinds of games in a relationship and i would break up with him. then he can text all the girls he likes because he obviously puts you second best to all those girls.

OP: You need to grow up. BIG TIME.

It's all about trust! Why would you be with him if you guys dont trust each other?

I don't understand why this is an issue for either of you. You both need to grow the hell up. Is it normal for you to not have other friends, regardless of their gender? Not every friend of his has to be a potential threat to you, and same goes for you. What are you guys, like 16?

Time to break up!!! Don't listen to anyone who says otherwise!!!

My bf texted a girl he said he knew from the condo he lived in 7 years before with his then gf of 13 years. I hadn't met her. One day after dating 2 years and being engaged he began to act differently but loved me. He would get really depressed at the holidays. One day he got upset and left depressed. I went to her home looking for him. She said he wasn't there but she bet I was as jealous as his last gf was. I said why, she said because I would smoke with him when he got home before she did. Your'e just like her. She said after she got to know her, his ex she accepted her. I said I'm not jealous of you i just wanted to find him, I was worried he was so depressed and didn't come home ( we lived together). Ever sense, my bf would never elaborate on their hangong out. He only said once it was to listen to music and smoke. He was very defensive one time and I called her and in a nice tone just said whats up with you and bf. Instead of saying just friends she said It's very involved and deep and i wouldn't feel right about saying anything you need to ask him. It sounded like a line from a movie. I daid you don't mean that you're just friends and she started talking over me again. She said to ask him. He said nothing more but they were just friends. He said he didnt believe she said that to me. Ever since he hasn't allowed me to meet with her. He says she says I will freak out which is just another excuse. I have asked calmly many times. My therypist said if i want to be with him and she believes he loves me then to break up or leave it alone. Its almost 4 years later and her bd is coming up and so far I'm not invited again. Opinions?

^overreaction much?!

Well my boyfriend even text his ex, but it is normal as long as it doesn't disturb your realtionship, if you feel uncomfortable, try to talk to him.

Is he trying to make you jealous??

It's just texting .. Doesn't mean he's with you he has no social life.