Is it normal for my boyfriend to save all his money to spend on me?

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I feel like he could be over doing it! My boyfriend doesn't have a job at the moment, he works for friends and their parents when he can for some extra cash between his sports and school. Whenever he gets money, he saves it until he can take me out. He always wants to take me to fancy restaurants or my favorite places, or buy me expensive things. I always feel bad and offer to pay but he tells me I'm not allowed. I'll say I like something while we're out and next thing you know he's showing up with it cause he bought it for me. He even always save at least enough weed so we can roll, even when his friends ask him to throw down. I've been with a lot of abusive and bad guys before him. I never knew what it was like to be treated so good. But for some reason I just feel like this is out of control, and I should be taming this. Is it normal?

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  • highrider
    11 years ago

    Id be grateful

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  • Love_Me_2013
    11 years ago

    My bf does the same thing. Spoiled to the point he tucks my feet on chilly nights lol! But for me 5yrs later I bring up marriage which oddly turns into a argument that ends with "look at all I done for you?" Idk now if I should of let him do all the splurging or been more persistent with "equal spoiling". The relationship now seems to have a mental control on me, I find myself saying "well he has..." Rather than just saying what I really want? I guess its normal depending who your dating...

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  • Thatguy777
    11 years ago

    That's sweet. :)

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  • Jdub
    11 years ago

    Gift giving could be his love language, but it is not normal, because if he does all this for you he is worsening himself off. You should probably talk with him, and try to share such a thing.

    Take him out on occasion yourself, but do so if you have spare cash and explain eh should do the same. It's bad money management, and you can be taken on dates and give gifts that are inexpensive and tell him such. If he doesn't get out of such a habit he may have trouble later on, if he's not already having trouble now.

    Of course this is my opinion and I am not a professional, it just seems like he needs to worry about himself as well as you, because spending EVERYTHING on you may harm him in the long run.

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