Is it normal for my boyfriend to refuse to tell me where he was at?

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My boyfriend and I live together and have a 5 month old baby together. We've had some bad times in our relationship but recently things have gotten better. However, we got into a fight the other night (because sometimes I think he thinks his baby momma is better than me) and last night, he didn't come home until like 2 (which is what he does when he gets mad).. and he refused to tell me who he was with and where he was it. To me, I feel like he obviously has something to hide. Then we were fighting about the same old thing again and he told me that he's had a lot of better looking girls than his other baby momma and the best looking girl he ever had was a korean girl years back. Basically I am at the bottom of the ladder in his eyes. I am white and he is asian. So not only do I feel like something was going on last night but like I can't compare to anyone else. And he keeps refusing to tell me and doesn't care that I'm ready to leave over this. He just told me whatever, pack my bags... everytime we fight he does this, he never asks me to stay, never says he wants to stay together. I am sick to my stomach right now.

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  • dirtybirdy
    11 years ago

    He obviously doesn't want you to stay. You should go. He's a piece of shit.

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  • kelili
    11 years ago

    Maybe you should wait for the situation to calm down a little and then try to have a discussion with him. An adult to adult conversation for the sake of your baby. And I would like to add that comparing you to the other girls he dated is really disgusting.

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    • 1000yrVampireKing
      11 years ago

      I agree with this. If you ask him questions when he is angry he is just going to blow you off because he is pissed off. However him being Asian and comparing you to Asian chicks shows he is racist snob. You should not deal with this and should leave for you and your child's sake if he has that impression of white women. Do you want your child raised by a racist so your kid can go around saying how worthless everyone else is? It shows he thinks you are lucky to have him.

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  • Cul-de-sac_Nightmare
    11 years ago

    Dump him.

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  • myboyfriendsbitch
    11 years ago

    How do you even get on the conversation of his other girlfriends looking better? I'm willing to bet that you brought up your feelings of inferiority to his baby momma, blamed him for seeing her and then he became annoyed after having this conversation many times and said his Korean girlfriend was hotter to prove that he's not seeing baby momma and piss you off at the same time.

    This is a fight i've been through many times. Get over your insecurities, there is no need to compare yourself to his past girlfriends. I've drove off and slept in my car after arguments with my bf before, so just say he's innocent until proven guilty. Otherwise you are fighting a losing battle and, yes, you are both losing.

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    • hurtgirlfriend
      11 years ago

      I don't think he's seeing the kid's mom because she lives states away. But it seems like there is unresolved feelings. When I first got with him he basically told me that he had better than me (and it was her). What had started this particular fight was my friend was over talking about how much he loved this girl and wanted to marry her and that's the first time he ever felt that way, and my man sat there and said he used to feel that way a long time ago about a woman... and obviously he was saying he didn't feel that way about me. That's how it got started and yes, you're right about my insecurities. :)

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  • ccjigsaw
    11 years ago

    Guys like that make women key cars lolololol I mean, why should he be allowed to get out scott free, right? >:D

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Sounds like it doesn't matter what you do, he isn't going to give a shit. He's already dumped you from the sound of it. He could just make an excuse as to where he was but he didn't, that's contempt.

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  • moomus
    11 years ago

    Put the boot on the other foot and tell him you don't want him anymore and leave. Then watch him come crawling back. And if he doesn't would u want him anyway??

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  • nursebetty
    11 years ago

    Totally agree with Kelili. Although I'd also like to add that he is a disrespectful a-hole who treats you like garbage. I wouldn't put up with it and I didn't when mine did the same thing to me and all the better for it because he was never going to change

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    He's a fuckin while you is a worryin.

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  • whatrudoing
    11 years ago

    He sounds like a douche.

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  • Darkoil
    11 years ago

    Just tell him that you don't want him or his 1 inch asian pecker anymore then throw him out, if he resists then resort to kicking the fuck out of him, again he is asian so you can probably break him with one hand.

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    • 1000yrVampireKing
      11 years ago

      If you are going to go by stereotypes Asians know karate.

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    • hurtgirlfriend
      11 years ago

      Um. He's muscular and not tiny and small-framed at all, nor is his dick small. Asian stereotyping is not needed; I'm looking for genuine advice.

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      • Darkoil
        11 years ago

        Ok here's some advice - stop being so pathetic and chasing after somebody who treats you like shit.

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        • hurtgirlfriend
          11 years ago

          It's not pathetic to have tried to work shit out with someone you have a kid with. I asked for advice because when he's not mad, everything is fine. When he gets mad, he acts this way. So, fuck you, troll. You're clearly here to troll people's questions and talk shit to make yourself feel better, hiding behind your internet screen name.

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          • Darkoil
            11 years ago

            Im not a troll you dumb bitch and honestly my life couldn't get any better. You shouldn't have had a child in the first place with him if you didn't know what type of
            person he is. The guy is obviously cheating on you and you are still with him, why? Because you have child together. That is not a good reason to be together but I would hazard a guess that you are more stupid than a brick wall based on the topic in hand so yeah your child is also going to grow up stupid, possibly fail in school so I honestly don't give a fuck what any of you do. If you want a happy life then leave, don't look back and go and do something meaningful with your life instead of complaing about some asian shithead.

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