Is it normal for my boyfriend to not know what to feel?

Hello everyone ! I've been with my boyfriend for already 7 months before him I had a 5 year relationship that was terrible but once I met my current bf now he has helped me move on build trust and smile again ! I'm his first serious & long relationship & we are very alike so you wouldn't think we would argue a lot. For the first couple of months it was perfect he would put his 100 into it and would want to see me all the time and spend every momment free he could with me. We're 7 months into the relationship and the last 2 months has only been fights.. He's been acting different hasn't been asking to see me as much , started telling me he wants to be with me but at the same time he doesn't, qhe started wanting to be alone a lot , he's long texts turned into barely anything, has been acting careless so this month he told me he needs time for himself and figure out what he wants because he doesn't know if he wants to be with me anymore due to all of the arguing. He had the couple days to himself and came back to me telling me he doesn't want to loose me and will try to change and be the man I met. It's been a week since he told me he'll change and he told me even tough we stopped fighting and are doing better he still feels like he did before. Can anyone please tell me what it is? Am I too clingy and not giving him space to miss me or is there no help to this? I love this guy and don't want to loose him can someone tell me what I'm doing wrong ?

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  • lc1988

    Exactly what Anthian said. Get out now. This happened to me but it was after 3.5 years of dating. It's a punch in the face but it's nothing you did. Please get out and start the moving on process. He'll just keep hurting you if you stick around.

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    • shuggy-chan

      We are all just happy you finally saw the light BFF =D

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      • lc1988

        Thanks! Better late then never I guess haha. You all saw it waaaay before I did unfortunately lol

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  • Honestly, it may not be anything you can help. You are who you are, he is who he is, and sometimes two people are not compatible. I would end it. I get offended when a guy tells me he is unsure if he wants to be in a relationship anymore so I make the choice easy and end the half assed relationship.

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  • charlie54321

    I think its a good sign that hes willing to talk about the fact hes not sure shows he genuinely cares .genuinely takes the decision of a life partner seriously .hard to say though with limited info . could be someone else . back off and let him make a decision or as other comments have suggested make the decision for him

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  • rohansamal

    It's basically a lack of communication. Guys don't know what a girl feels.and a girls irrational when she expects the guy tonknow everything

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  • A_s14

    It's hard to let it go because there many reasons why he says he is the way he is now mainly because he lost his job and it's stressing him out most , I don't know what to do anymore I don't wanna loose this man but I'm also getting so hurt

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    • bfus

      You've already lost him. I would move on, find someone who is actually interested in you.

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