Is it normal for my boyfriend to not care about spending time with me?

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I got a new job, a second job. So all my time seems to be spent working. I get to see him on weekends. On weekdays, he hardly wants to talk to me. He b*tches the whole time on the phone and makes a million excuses to not talk to me but never makes one to talk to me. He'll claim he misses me, but I don't see it. I said today I will miss him this week and he immediately yells "It's only five days!" Is that just how guys are? Do they just not care as much as girls? I've been missing him like crazy and he's been just fine. Starts to make me feel a little used and sad. He fights with me all week when I call him and then we're fine on the weekends. He doesn't call me when I ask him to. I feel like I've been putting out a lot of effort and he hasn't been doing anything.

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  • Dricey
    13 years ago

    You sound like my last girlfriend.

    If this is anything like my last relationship I can tell you, from being the inconsiderate asshole boyfriend in the scenario, that what has happened is that he's over the relationship but doesn't want to end it because he's too much of a pansy to do so :P

    Afraid of breaking your heart or something.

    He's not invested in the relationship, and he's not invested in your emotions. If he hasn't broken up with you yet it's because he feels somehow responsible for you, like it would be morally wrong to hurt your feelings.

    Your relationship's already over :P

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  • Gidget
    13 years ago

    i dont know honey he may be missing u n not want to show it or cheating so it could really be anything so look into it

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    You do seem a bit clingy and you might want to ask yourself why you find daily attention so important... However, some people are also like you, but it doesn't seem like your boyfriend is, so maybe it's time to find a guy that does like to give and receive the same amount of attention that you do.

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  • jack999
    14 years ago

    im a guy and we dont care as much as girl and did u say ai miss u alot because that could be y he said its only 5 days but idk

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  • St.PeppersLonelyHeartsClub
    14 years ago

    It sounds like he might feel a little neglected now that you have a second job. But, that DOES NOT excuse his behavior. It seems that you are a hard working person, both in your life and relationship. My advice is to call him out on his behavior, don't be judgemental or bossy just calmly talk to him about the issues your having. I recommened doing it in person, if he seems truly sorry and says he will work on his behavior then fantastic. If he brushes off your concerns and tells your your crazy or dramatic, then it might be time to say goodbye. You deserve somebody who cares about the relationship as much as you do. I hope I could help!

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  • leahquestions
    14 years ago

    Actions speak louder than words. There are givers and there are takers. Make yourself unavailable,quick, it works.. If he's interested he'll find you. The golden rule--- if he was working 2 jobs and you got to see him on weekends wouldn't you make it special..he's not doing it for you sweetie. Tell him you really don't want to hear it..make yourself unavailable...he knows what he's doing...Talk about it once but if it continues then all your doing is bitching about something that's not going to change.... Find someone to treat you better....

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